DENIAL OF SEXUAL FULFILLMENT

by Mistress Michelle Peters

One of the concepts you must understand, and you should really understand it prior to entering the world of dominant women, is that the men who come to you, as all men everywhere, are seeking sexual fulfillment. They have needs that set them apart from the usual, run-of-the-mill males you can encounter on the street, in the subway or at the market, but their goals are essentially the same. Sexual fulfillment is their goal, their aim, their ambition. Without it, you would have no role as a dominatrix, though as I have explained earlier, there is no necessity for you to give him the impression that his satisfaction enters into the sex act at all. Still, you and I know that without allowing him satisfaction of some kind, he would not stay around you for long. That is not to say that you have to provide him with satisfaction every time he comes to serve you, but it must be given him from time to time, and the promise must always be there of incredible, sexual delight.

Knowing that sexual satisfaction is his reason for being there with you, he has placed a powerful weapon in your hands. You can deny him any kind of gratification at all, while at the same time stimulating him to inordinate degrees. His frustration will rise, and you will be able to control him in ways never before possible. He will be seeking means to get from you the kind of pleasure he's there for, and the longer you can hold him off, the more tractable he'll become in the end.

Throughout his training, the slave will find that he is constantly aroused sexually, and he will make it clear that he wants genital satisfaction at every opportunity. Do not succumb to the temptation, no matter how much you may desire it yourself, or your training will be for naught.

Now, you will find that in arousing your male you will most likely reach a high degree of sexual excitement yourself. There is absolutely no reason at all that you cannot indulge yourself to the fullest with him... as long as you do not use his genitals in such a way that he manages to ejaculate.

This is the point where oral sex plays an extremely important part. Most of the men you encounter will not willingly engage in oral sex with you, for to do so would activate much of their guilt reaction once again. So, in the process of arousing them, you must force them to provide you with oral gratification as much as you wish, without giving them the slightest indication that they are going to receive any satisfaction from you. Over a period of time, the slave will develop a liking for this sex practice, will eagerly look forward to the opportunity to treat you in this way, hoping that you will relinquish your air of fierceness for only a moment and indulge him in the same way.

Never do so. Not only is it disgusting in the extreme to consider giving a man oral sex, it is degrading and entirely unbecoming the behavior of a dominatrix. You can indicate to him that if he serves you well, he can look forward to an ultimate reward... consider the possibilities!

Most of the time, such treatment will be adequate for any male you encounter, for by the time you have brought him this far along in his training, he will be docile and used to obeying your every command. But now and then you will get a ringer, a turkey, who does not follow the usual pattern. When his level of arousal reaches a certain point, he will rebel, perhaps trying to force himself on you.

However, to go back to the treatment of the men who are worthwhile training, those who conscientiously attempt to obey your wishes. He will return to you in a highly drawn state, for without sexual release his nerves will be tight and he will be nearly incoherent. He will be over-eager to obey, and he will make mistakes. Punish him lightly at this point, but punish him. Too severe an application of the whip may bring about ejaculation, as I explained earlier, and would make your further punishment of him meaningless. Instead, punish him for any transgression, but indicate to him that at the end of his punishment he will receive the pleasure he needs so desperately. I strongly recommend that you give it to him on an occasion like this, but only under the conditions I have outlined previously.

The dividing line between refusal and indulgence is a thin one, not easily mastered, but master it you must. Denial is the strongest weapon in your arsenal, and if you do not utilize it properly, your control over your slaves will be a tenuous one at best. Most of the time you spend with any given slave will be spent in denial, for you must refuse to allow him any more sexual gratification than is absolutely necessary. Since obviously you are a highly-sexed woman or you would not be considering the possibility of becoming a dominatrix, keeping your slave in a state of arousal without indulging him (and yourself) in sexual gratification can take its toll, so you must be prepared. You must find alternative means of gratification for yourself, difficult at first, when the number of males you have at your disposal will necessarily be small... but after you have been around for a while, you will find that you can treat one slave to the most abject denial, while at the same time finding all the pleasure you can handle with other males in your stable.