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What exactly is "subspace" and ... what is it not? Part 1
By: Hans Meijer
Note: The author is the chairman of the POWERotics
Foundation, an organization dedicated to providing reliable
information to and about the BDSM community. This article is
a team effort by the POWERotics team and includes input from
medical professionals and psychologists. In fact, this is a
"summary" of several much more in depth articles.
"Subspace"
This word we use to describe the psychological (mental) and physical state
the submissive can - but does not (always) have to - reach as a result of
BDSM interaction. On the Internet especially you will a lot of stories
and articles about "subspace". Most of these unfortunately got
it dead wrong. This leads to a lot of confusion. For example "subspace"
and orgasm are often mixed up.
Science is still a long way away from fully understanding
"subspace". That's no big surprise, since very little -
actually hardly any - coherent scientific research has been
done in this area. However, we do know more than enough to
be able to do away with many of the misconceptions and
misunderstandings.
Man or woman?
There is a big difference between the physiological
(especially bio-chemical) reactions in the male and female
body. As a result, male "subspace" is incomparable to female
"subspace". Most importantly, female "subspace" usually
lasts a lot longer. The explanation for this is in the fact
that the male ejaculation (which is not necessarily always
the same as an orgasm) puts an end to quite a lot of
biochemical processes and - as a result - to subspace. On
top of this, female sexuality in general is very different
from male sexuality. And there is of course a major
difference in the way, men and women deal with emotions.
Orgasm or "subspace"
Quite a few submissive women confuse orgasm, or even
strong (sexual) arousal, with "subspace" - simply because
they have no personal experience with orgasms. Global
scientific research tells us that - unfortunately - probably
as much as one out of every three adult women has never
experienced an orgasm. There is no reason to assume these
figures any different within the BDSM community. In other
words, probably one out of each three submissive women does
not know what an orgasm is, hence cannot distinguish the
differences between orgasm and subspace and is likely to
mistake one for the other.
Besides, there are different forms of orgasm (different
orgasms, as some prefer to say).
One thing we do know: having an orgasm while in
"subspace" is biologically next to impossible!
This is because the hormonal chain of events - leading to
subspace - is quite different from the one - leading to an
orgasm. In the early stages of the route to both "subspace"
and orgasm these chains of events are quite similar. But at
some point along the way the body has to make a choice:
either go for orgasm, or go for subspace. One excludes the
other. In other words, whenever a submissive tells you he or
she "was cumming like there is no tomorrow" that is exactly
what has been happening. But, no more than that. There is
nothing wrong with an orgasm. On the contrary in fact. But
it just isn't "subspace".
The tall stories
The "Stages of Subspace" - as described on many Internet
sites - do not exist!
What has happened is that somebody, somewhere took the
description of the stages of the female orgasm, changed and
twisted the wording a bit and thought it looked good. Fact
of the matter is, subspace does not work like that at all.
Actually, while "subspace' is a state of being that
develops gradually during its early stages, it is not a
neatly ordered, gradual, "phased"
development at all. The best comparison is to look at it as
water, building up behind a dam. At some point the dam will
break under the water pressure and the next thing you know
"all hell breaks loose". That is exactly, what happens
during the development of subspace.
Besides, the "road to subspace" is a different one all
the time and probably every time. Impulses and responses can
change per day or even per hour. This is because your body
is receptive to all sorts of impulses that have an influence
on hormone production. This can be stress, anxiety,
uncertainty, fever or the effects of alcohol, tobacco,
nutrition, medication or drugs for example or, in the female
body, the influences the monthly cycle, possible pregnancy
and menopause.
So what exactly is "subspace"?
"Subspace" is a form of trance. Trance in its essence is
a state of being, different from your "normal" state of
being. During trance your mind excludes most of its input
and concentrates on just one or only very few impulses,
completely disregarding all others. There are many ways in
which a trance can be induced. Prolonged dancing for
example, or hunger, prolonged physical activity.
Hypothermia, recreational drugs, high fever, lack of
nutrition, dehydration AND BDSM-activity all can induce
trance. Just like repeated physical activity (such as
jumping from one leg on another for a long time - a modern
technique used by psychologists).
Trance is the result of hormonal activity. Hormones are
substances in your body, responsible for communication
between the brain and the cortex and the rest of the body
("blink your eye" is the result of a mini hormone cocktail.
So is "pull muscle" or ..... "fall in love"). Everything
your body does (or does not) is the result of these usually
complex hormone cocktails. Hormones are being read by
"receptors" and the availability and functionality of these
receptors is genetically determined. That is why a hormonal
reaction is not identical in different people.
For "subspace" a group of hormones, called "peptides" is
important. Peptides are amino acids. Many look like morphine
and have attributes, that can be compared to morphine. And
yes - although natural - they ARE (to some extent)
addictive! For subspace ENDORPHINS - a group of such
peptides - are an important ingredient.
Where does it start?
Both "subspace" and sexual arousal start with
ADRENALINE.
Actually, adrenaline is an incorrect name, since it
assumes it is one hormone. Actually, it is a combination of
two hormones: adrenaline (in biochemical terms epinephrine)
and noradrenalin (norepinephrin). These twins are being
produced simultaneously, but they serve different purposes.
Adrenaline - among many other things - makes certain that
extra nutrients (sugars especially) are transported to the
muscles, while noradrenalin (again among many other things)
is responsible for inducing vascular contraction, so the
veins help the heart to pump blood through the body faster.
You could say the adrenaline twins are your body's first
response team. As soon as anything happens that is different
from what was - at that moment in time - the normal
situation, the body starts to produce adrenaline. This
happens in a split second and it brings the body to a
"higher state of alert". Ready to fight, run, jump out of
the way of a passing truck or ... to enter into an argument
for example. Your senses are wide open, information
transport through the body increases and speeds up, muscles
contract, the heart rate heightens and muscles are being
filled with whatever "fast food" is available. And these are
only a few of the processes, induced by the adrenaline
twins. Besides adrenaline is one of your natural painkillers.
When your body decides it is time to produce adrenaline
it does so, based on the principle: shoot first - ask
questions later. In other words, adrenaline production is well under way
before the brain has had a chance to analyze the situation.
The reason for this is that the situation may call for a
reflex action. And that is what you want. You don't want
your brain to go like; "Wow, that's a truck coming at
me, what shall we do about that?" No, hopefully you probably
got yourself out of the way before you even realized the
thing was a truck. That is a reflex and the result of
adrenaline.
The "kick"
Back to "subspace".
Adrenaline production started well before you consciously
figured out you were getting aroused. As soon as the brain
notices the higher adrenaline concentrations have nothing to
do with anything that requires an immediate reaction it has
two options. It can either step down from the "red alert"
phase and tell your body to go into "business as usual"
mode. Or - if the impulse that triggered the increased
adrenaline production persists without presenting any danger
or other alarming situation - it may decide to continue
production. Why? Because the brain like adrenaline.
The adrenaline twins can give your a "kick" (or a "high"
as some like to call it). It's the same "kick" you get from
passing an exam, a bungyjump or a dive in the pool on a
steamy hot day for example. In short, the "YES!" feeling.
Your body can produced increased adrenaline levels for about
half an hour. Oh, by the way, women can enjoy adrenaline
somewhat longer than men, usually.
FOR MANY PEOPLE INTO BDSM ....... THIS IS IT!
Nothing wrong with that. An adrenaline high as such can
be great fun, but ...... it's got nothing to do with
"subspace". It is an adrenaline kick. Fun, exciting,
addictive is some way. In other words, from anything like a
15 to 30 minutes "quickly" you won't enter "subspace", but
you probably will get an adrenaline high. Oh, what most
dominants describe as their "Dom space" is very likely to be
an adrenaline high as well.
This provides us with one clear, recognizable and
physical insight in the different ways, people experience
BDSM and it explains part of the different forms of BDSM.
Those who are after the adrenaline high do just that and
that's fine. But it is physically and mentally very
different from what we are going to talk about below. And
the two cannot (and should not) be compared. It's like
baseball and football. Both sports revolve around a ball and
are played by teams in a stadium. But that is where the
comparison ends. Which doesn't mean that baseball players
are better or lesser sports people than football players.
They're just different and their abilities - if at all -
should be compared to others in their own league.
Endorphins
The road to "subspace" is like a ladder. You go from one
step to the next.
Adrenaline is the first step. The next one brings us to a
different - much larger - group of hormones: ENDORPHINS. One
important note: there are other endorphin highs (such as the
"runners' high"). They are, although similar, very different
from what we call "subspace".
Endorphins are peptides too. They are a morphine-like
group of substances (so far science has identified 39
different ones), that are relatively new to scientists. They
were identified in the mid 1970s and are called endorphins
since 1975. In very unscientific words they are known as
"mood hormones", since they are responsible for our moods,
whichever one. Regardless if you cry, laugh, get angry,
happy, or sad or just bored .... all that is triggered by
endorphins. They are produced in countless different
"cocktails" and, just like adrenaline, work as a natural
painkiller as well. They are also responsible for car- and
airsickness and vomiting in general.
To understand the "road to subspace" the following is
important. Your body HAS to produce adrenaline before it
starts to produce endorphins and the endorphins - that
contribute to "subspace" a- re only first produced after
some 20 to 30 minutes. In fact they are the "next shift".
Within the endorphins group there are some hormones we call
"encephalin". These do to cortex what endorphins do to the
brain to create "subspace" and both need to be present.
All hormones have a chemically incomplete "forerunner",
but for reasons of clarity and simplicity we will skip
these.
To fully explain "subspace" science still lacks a lot of
data. Too many to pinpoint and explain the process
precisely. But we do know quite a bit. One important thing
to understand "subspace" is the recent discovery of
different ways, in which the brain releases endorphins.
Besides the normal "through the proper channels" way (via
glands and the nervous system) there also appear to be
small, apparently uncontrolled fountain like releases on the
outside of the brain. These have been photographed and
filmed. These "endorphin fountains" occur on specific
occasions. Most parents will have seen their young kid
simply staring at a ball or some object without moving or
responding, but just looking at it - apparently fascinated
by its color or shape. That is when endorphin fountains
occur. Why they do, science does not know yet. But we do
know these fountains are connected to the kind of emotional
and physical responses, we call "subspace" in terms of BDSM.
These endorphin fountains also seem to induce the "deer in
the headlight" behavior. That is not fear, but fascination.
A probably more familiar similar reaction are the LSD-trips
from the hippie days.
Are we going to take a left turn, or a right?
Here we reach a crucial junction. Once the endorphins
production gets well underway, there is a choice to make:
are we "going into subspace" or will it be an orgasm today?
Remember, one excludes the other. No one knows exactly how
or why this choice is being made but - remember, hormone
receptors are genetically determined - at least some of that
has to be in the genetic code somewhere.
So, why is there such a crucial choice? Well, in order to
follow the hormonal route to an orgasm the body now will
have to start to produce a group of hormones called GnRH.
These will eventually trigger the production of yet another
hormone (genadotropine), which induces the production and
release of steroids (the "sex" hormones). As soon as the
GnRH production starts the endorphins production slows down
and finally stops. In other words: no "fountains" - no
"subspace".
Up to this point your body has produced quite a lot of
these "mood hormones" and that is responsible for the
feelings of bonding, attachment, affection, security and
love. This makes sense, since these emotions - in females
especially - are a necessity for the orgasm. This is what
some people describe as "floating". No, that is not one of
"stages of subspace". Actually that is pretty general,
normal human behavior and quite necessary.
So, here is again a crucial difference in BDSM-experience
- physically and mentally recognizable: if there now will be
an orgasm, that is what you go for. And, orgasms are NICE!
And very good to have. But ...... THEY ARE NOT "SUBSPACE".
The bonding and affection emotions however, can be a first
step towards it.
Hallucination, trance and different levels of
awareness
Now is where we can see the fundamental differences
between "subspace" and other BDSM-experiences (driven by
other motives). If and when the body decides not to go for
the orgasm, but instead to go for "subspace" we are getting
to the "deer in the headlights". And also the point where
the dam breaks.
If endorphins production continues - remember, we still
do not know exactly why - trance and light forms of
hallucination occur. THAT is "subspace"!
Someone "in subspace" is easy to recognize from the
outside. They are no longer able to drive a car, or even a
bike. They seem silent, absentminded, slow responding,
uninterested. In other words "not really here". That again
is not the same as the warm, glowy, dreamy feeling after an
orgasm. Somebody "in subspace" is "not on this planet", so
to speak.
"Subspace" is dangerous in some ways. People "in subspace"
have very different levels of perception and awareness. They
will see a traffic light as interesting colors that changes
all the time. They do NOT see it as a warning signal. To
them, a house is a fascinating stack of bricks with
intriguing patterns - NOT something people actually live in.
If you would slit the throat of someone "in subspace" they'd
probably tell you they'd consider that an interesting and
fascinating experience. They do NOT recognize the life
threatening situation.
Someone "in subspace" is INTOXICATED! Intoxicated as in:
under influence of drugs.
If you have ever been given morphine for medical reason
you will know that morphine creates a colorful, happy,
peaceful world without fear or pain or discomfort.
Endorphins in high concentrations create EXACTLY THAT
EFFECT.
SOMEONE IN "SUBSPACE" CAN BE A DANGER TO HIM OR HERSELF!
"Subspace" can last for anything from several hours to
several days. For the duration of "subspace" reflexes slow
down severely (this is the result of the slightly
intoxicating effects of encephalin on the cortex) and much
of normal, everyday logic no longer works. Someone in
subspace cannot make responsible, consensual decisions.
EVERYTHING THAT TRUE FOR PEOPLE UNDER THE INFLUENCE OF
ALCOHOL, RECREATIONAL DRUGS OR MEDICATION IS TRUE FOR PEOPLE
"IN SUBSPACE".
As said, subspace is easy to spot from the outside.
Pupils widen, responses slow down, appear illogical or
simply do not occur. Food and sustenance is no longer
important, people hear you, but do not understand you, they
cannot find the right words and some submissives even stop
breathing temporarily. Someone "in subspace" - as far as
physical behavior and signals are concerned - is very
similar to someone, under the influence of recreational
drugs. The trance itself is important to them, feeds them
and leads them. Nothing else matters and that - for example
- includes sexual arousal. Colors, sounds, scents are
individual, seemingly incoherent experiences. if you have
never been here, you haven't been "in subspace" (yet). And
that's fine. it is just that "subspace" is very different
from everything else.
Conclusions:
There are no "stages of subspace". There are however very
different ways in which people experience and response to
BDSM-activity. Much of that is biochemically determined.
Orgasm and "subspace" are two different, biochemically
largely incompatible experiences.
Different biochemical reactions create different
experiences (not levels of experience!). One is not better
than the other. They are just different. it is important to
understand these differences, because the wants and needs
are different.
"Subspace" is a form of trance and should be dealt with
accordingly. "Subspace" is not without risk.
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