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The Difference Between SM and Abuse
a statement from the
Lesbian Sex Mafia
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SM
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ABUSE
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An SM scene is a controlled situation.
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Abuse is an out-of-control situation.
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Negotiation occurs before an SM scene to determine what
will and will not happen in that scene.
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One person determines what will happen.
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Knowledgeable consent is given to the scene by all parties.
No consent is asked for or given.
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The "bottom" has a safe word that allows them to stop the
scene at any time they need to for physical or emotional
reasons. The person being abused cannot stop what is happening.
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Everyone involved in the SM scene is concerned about needs,
desires, and limits of others. No concern is given to the
needs, desires, and limits of the abused person.
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The people in the SM scene are careful to be sure that they
are not impaired by alcohol or drug use during the scene.
Alcohol or drugs are often used before an episode of abuse.
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After an SM scene, the people involved feel good. After
an episode of abuse, the people involved feel bad.
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Lesbian Sex Mafia (LSM) is a group for lesbian, bisexual,
heterosexual, and transsexual women who are interested in
exploring SM, fetishes, BD, and uninhibited sexual expression
in a safe, sane, consensual, and confidential way.
For more info on Lesbian Sex Mafia (LSM):
Lesbian Sex Mafia (LSM)
P.O. Box 993
Murray Hill Station
New York, NY 10156
212-726-3844
LSMNYC@hotmail.com
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