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BDSM/Fetish PLAY LIST
Prepared by Jrsygir1(6/2000)
This list was inspired by many existing lists on the internet...
it was prepared and is intended for educational purposes only and
should not be used for commercial gain... please feel free to
reproduce and distribute this document free of charge anywhere
on the internet or in print.
This is a Play list that may help couples figure out what their
wants and needs are. Personally I don't like play lists but
sometimes they are good communication tools. When someone fills
it out they should indicate if they are filling it out for their
ultimate Dominant/Top partner or for someone in particular, taking
into consideration the nature of the relationship. In other words
if I were filling it out for my longtime Dominant partner it would
look different than if I were filling it out for a new casual play
partner. Some of the answers would be different based on the nature
of the relationship and the level of trust involved. Please note:
nothing in my opinion takes the place of chemistry and face to face
communication.
How to fill out the forms:
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Done it YES or NO
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Indicate how you felt about it when you did it using the
following indicators:
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NO
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means you will NOT do that activity under any circumstances.
Its a hard limit and will never happen with anyone. PERIOD!
THE END! DON'T EVEN GO THERE!
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0
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means you HATE that activity, but you are willing to
do it at least a little to please the Dominant/Top,
but you would really rather not. It can also mean
you are not able to do that activity with a casual
play partner but in the right situation, like a
committed relationship, you would be capable of
doing it. And this is why communication will never
take the place of a Play list.
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means you don't care much about it....under the right
circumstances it might be fun...what the hell...ok you
will try it.
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means you're curious about it, not sure how you'll
respond... in theory you think you will like it...
but you reserve the right to hate it.
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means it's pleasurable or fun....and you hope the
Dominant/Top can make it more fun.
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means you love it, you get hot thinking about it...
and you really really want to do it.
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5
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means the activity is a wild turn-on, you want to do
it more more more... all the time... AGAIN!!!
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Indicate for each item how you feel RIGHT NOW about doing
that activity with the person who asked you to fill this
play list out, assuming there will be chemistry when you
actually meet.
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NO
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means you will NOT do that item under any circumstances.
Its a hard limit and will never happen with anyone. PERIOD!
THE END! DON'T EVEN GO THERE!
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0
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means you HATE that activity, but you are willing to
do it at least a little to please the Dominant. It
can also mean you are not able to do that activity
with a casual play partner but in the right situation,
like a committed relationship, you would be capable of
doing it. And this is why communication will never take
the place of a Play list.
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1
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means you don't care much about it....under the right
circumstances it might be fun...what the hell...ok
you will try it.
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2
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means you're curious about it, not sure how you'll
respond... in theory you think you will like it...
but you reserve the right to hate it.
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means it's pleasurable or fun....and you hope the
Dominant/Top can make it more fun.
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4
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means you love it, you get hot thinking about it...
and you really really want to do it.
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5
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means the activity is a wild turn-on, you want to
do it more more more... all the time... AGAIN!!!
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I, ________________, am filling this play list out at the
request of _______________.
My experience in BDSM is best described as (circle one):
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None
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Some
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Casual
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Serious
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Extensive
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SEX
Is sex something you want in your BDSM relationship?
Define sex:
Define Safe Sex:
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DONE IT (YES OR NO)
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HOW YOU FELT (NO OR 0 TO 5)
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WOULD LIKE TO DO IT (NO or 0 TO 5)
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COMMENT
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Anal penetration (penis)
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Anal penetration (object)
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Anal penetration (doing)
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Anal fisting (getting)
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Analingus (giving)
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Analingus (getting)
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Cock worship (doing)
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Cunnilingus (getting)
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Cunnilingus (giving)
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Cyber Sex
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Direct masturbation
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Double penetration (oral/anal)
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Double Penetration (vaginal/anal)
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Eating/drinking cum (others)
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Eating/drinking cum (own)
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Fantasy rape
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Fellatio (getting)
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Fellatio (giving)
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Group sex
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Intercourse
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Phone Sex
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Public Sex
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Strap-ons (receiving)
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Threesomes
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Triple Penetration
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Vaginal sex (penis)
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Vibrator/dildo
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BONDAGE
Degree of immobility or helplessness enjoyed (circle one)
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DONE IT (YES OR NO)
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HOW YOU FELT (NO OR 0 TO 5)
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WOULD LIKE TO DO IT (NO or 0 TO 5)
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COMMENT
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1-3 hour duration
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3-6 hour duration
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Overnight duration
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Arm sleeves
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Bondage (light)
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Bondage (heavy)
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Breast bondage
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Cages
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Ceiling/wall hooks
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Collars (leather)
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Collars (other)
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Cotton ropes
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Chains
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Cuffs (leather)
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Cuffs (other)
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Gags (ball)
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Gags (funnel)
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Gags (panties)
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Gags (other)
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Genital bondage
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Harnessing (suspended)
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Intricate rope bondage
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Leather restraints
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Mental bondage
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Mummification
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Nylon rope
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Saran wrapping
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Shackles
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Silk scarves
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Slings/swings
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Spreader-bars
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Spread-eagle
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Stocks
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Straightjackets
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Strapping - full body
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Suspension (on toes)
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Suspension (full)
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Suspension (inverted)
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PUNISHMENT
Do you respond to punishment?
Under what circumstances is punishment not ok?
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DONE IT (YES OR NO)
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HOW YOU FELT (NO OR 0 TO 5)
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WOULD LIKE TO DO IT (NO or 0 TO 5)
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COMMENT
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Belt/strap
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Cane
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Denial of pleasure
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Fiberglass/plastic rod
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Isolation
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Leather Flogger
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Leather paddle
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Riding crop
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Rubber whip
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Ruler
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Silent Treatment
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Single lash
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Spanking
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Switch
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Wooden paddle
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Soap In Mouth
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ROLE PLAY
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ITEM
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DONE IT (YES OR NO)
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HOW YOU FELT (NO OR 0 TO 5)
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WOULD LIKE TO DO IT (NO or 0 TO 5)
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COMMENT
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Pony
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Dog
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Cat
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Bunny
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Worm
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Whore
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Patient
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Nurse
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Victim
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Corpse
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Prison Inmate
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Slut
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Furniture
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Pig
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Maid
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Sissy
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Doll
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Kajira
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Baby
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Robot
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Stripper
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FETISH
What items or types of play make the little man in your boat
stand up and sing?
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ITEM
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DONE IT (YES OR NO)
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HOW YOU FELT (NO OR 0 TO 5)
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WOULD LIKE TO DO IT (NO or 0 TO 5)
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COMMENT
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Boot worship
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Balloons
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Food
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Stuffed animals
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Restraints
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Bugs
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Shoes
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Stinky Feet
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Socks
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Stockings
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Masks
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Corsets (wearing)
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Corsets (on others)
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Voluntary X dressing
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Forced X dressing
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Public X dressing
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Uniforms
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Foot Worship
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High heel wearing
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High heel worship
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Latex wearing
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Latex, on others
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Rubber wearing
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Rubber on others
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Leather wearing
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Leather on others
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Feet
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Body Inflation
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Lactation
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Amazons
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Crush
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Canine
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Hair
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Pregnant Females
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Needles
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Blood
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Smoking
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Tickling
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Vampires
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Long Nails
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Dirty Panties
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Guns
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Knives
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HUMILIATION & EXHIBITIONISM
Is humiliation something you might get into?
What about being displayed in public?
What types of humiliation would be off limits?
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DONE IT (YES OR NO)
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HOW YOU FELT (NO OR 0 TO 5)
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WOULD LIKE TO DO IT (NO or 0 TO 5)
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COMMENT
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Crossing dressing
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Crawling
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Dirty words
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Face slapping
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Foot kissing
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Kneeling
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Lead on leash
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Public display
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Public embarrassment
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Public sex
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Secret sex in public
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Verbal abuse
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Examination
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Inspection
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Objectification
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Toilet
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Forced Nudity
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Given Away
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Ashtray
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BODILY FUNCTIONS
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DONE IT (YES OR NO)
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HOW YOU FELT (NO OR 0 TO 5)
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COMMENT
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Breath Control
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Brown showers, scat
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Catheterization
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Eating/drinking own waste
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Eating/drinking own cum
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Enemas
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Physical Examinations
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Golden showers
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Medical scenes
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Menstrual service
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Sweat
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Snot
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Spit
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Diapering
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INTENSE SENSATION AND IMPACT PLAY
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ITEM
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DONE IT (YES OR NO)
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HOW YOU FELT (NO OR 0 TO 5)
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WOULD LIKE TO DO IT (NO or 0 TO 5)
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COMMENT
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Branding
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Caning
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Clip & Clamps
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Cock & Ball torture
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Cutting
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Electrical play
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Flogging
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Fire
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Hair Pulling
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Heat
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Hot Wax
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Needles (Play piercing)
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Paddling
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Pressure Points
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Punching
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Scratching (giving)
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Scratching (receiving)
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Slapping
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Spanking (hand)
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Spanking (other)
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Whipping (single tail)
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Whipping (other)
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OTHER STUFF
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ITEM
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DONE IT (YES OR NO)
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HOW YOU FELT (NO OR 0 TO 5)
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WOULD LIKE TO DO IT (NO or 0 TO 5)
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COMMENT
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Hoods (leather)
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Hoods (metal)
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Hoods (other)
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Blindfolds
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Head Harness
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Ice
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Interrogations
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Kidnapping
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Massage - getting
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Massage - giving
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Piercing (permanent)
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Photographs
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Romantic play
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Sensory deprivation
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Shaving
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Tattoos
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Teasing
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Voyeurism
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Videoed scenes
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Wrestling
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For you, the turn on of BDSM is: (rate from 1 to 6 with 1 being most
erotic):
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Item
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Value
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Comments
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Visual
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Psychological
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Aural (sound)
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Sensory-intense
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Emotional
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Sensual-erotic
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other:
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What positions have the highest erotic value for you (rate from
1 to 6 with 1 being most erotic):
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Standing bondage
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Lying face down
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Hands & Knees
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Kneeling
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other:
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What toys have the highest erotic value for you (1=some
interest 5=very interested)
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Value
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Comments
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Whips
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Floggers
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Canes
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Paddles
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Electrical toys
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Ropes
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Chains
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Leather Restraints
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Wax
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Knives
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Nipple clamps
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Clothespins
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Paddles
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Uniforms
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Dildos
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Vibrators
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Butt plugs
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Gags
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Handcuffs
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Blindfolds
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Belts
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Harnesses & Slings
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Boots/shoes
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Clothing
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Collars
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How do you usually like it? (use all that apply)
(N) never, (T) thuddy, (S) stingy, (L) light, (M) medium,
(H) heavy, (?) unsure
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Back
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Butt
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Breasts
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Face
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Feet
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Genitals
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Shoulders
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Thighs
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These activities interest me and why:
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Discipline
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Punishment
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Mental Domination
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NLP
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Non Consensual
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Exhibitionism
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Humiliation
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Swapping
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Fantasy Rape
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Fear Play
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Bondage
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Sensory Deprivation
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Forced Feminization
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Role Play
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Public Play
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Hypnosis
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Suspension
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Mummification
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Extreme Punishment
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Extreme Pain
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Long Term Service
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Slavery
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Your biggest fantasy is:
Your favorite scene was:
Your worst scene was:
Your biggest fears are:
How do you feel about Polyamoury?
Do you consider yourself Poly or Monogamous?
What parts of your body are most erotically sensitive?
What parts of your Dom's body would you most like to pleasure?
List any known limits for the specific play partner this
questionnaire is being prepared for:
What disease screenings have you had (dates) and what were the outcomes?
What disease screenings are you willing to get?
What disease screenings are you unwilling to get and why?
For the Tops/Dominants
My experience in BDSM is best described as (circle one):
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None
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Some
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Casual
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Serious
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Extensive
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I as the Top/Dominant have the following limits:
What safe words will be used and what are their specific meanings?
My style of BDSM is best described as:
If you couldn't use toys, pain or sex, how would you Dominate your
submissive/bottom?
Dominant/Top's Real Name is ________________________
Place of Employment_________________________
Employer Phone # __________________
I, _____________________, give _________________ permission to contact my
place of employment and verify my name and employment. I understand this
info will be given to the safe call person of the play partner when
we meet in real life.
Member of the following BDSM organizations
References:
Submissive/bottom's Real Name is ________________________
Place of Employment_________________________
Employer Phone # __________________
I, _____________________, give _________________ permission to contact my
place of employment and verify my name and employment. I understand this
info will be given to the safe call person of the play partner when we
meet in real life.
Member of the following BDSM organizations
References
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