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Guide To Anal Play
by
Matchstick
A guide to enjoying this wonderful but often misunderstood and
mistrusted part of our bodies. My most important work.
Table Of Contents
The anus is the part of our bodies that is most alien to us. We
can't see it without a mirror. As children we are told it's a
dirty part of our bodies. Many people who try anal sex find it
painful, and either give up, or simply endure the pain for
their partner's sake.
Nobody told us that it could feel wonderful. Nobody told us
that after the genitals, the anus has the largest concentration
of nerves in the human body. Nobody told us how to do it right.
This has got to change...
Why Anal Play?
The first time I ever told anyone I wanted to touch their anus
they said "Ewwww, why would you want to do that?"
Why indeed?
The most basic answer is because it is enjoyable. This in
itself is answer enough. However, many people find it useful
to explore the issue on a deeper level.
Anal play feel very good on a simple physical level. The
anus is extremely sensitive and therefore can be an excellent
receptor to simple sensual pleasure. Many men enjoy having
their prostate rubbed, and some women are capable of orgasm
simply from anal penetration.
Many people see receiving anal sex as a submissive act. My
answer to these people is if you enjoy it as a submissive
act do so, but it doesn't have to be if you don't want it
to be. Anal play is what you make of it.
Others see receiving anal play as an inherently female
act. They seem to think that someone who allows something
phallic into their body is acting as the female. I disagree
with the simple minded approach, but personally enjoy
role playing as a female during anal play. And yes, those
are my panties. : )
Some see anal play as a "dirty" act. It doesn't have
to be. After a good enema, anal sex can be as clean is vaginal
sex. However, if you like the idea of touching and playing with
shit, or enjoying a sexual act simply because it is dirty, go
for it. (Make sure to think about safer sex, however.)
These ideas, concepts, prejudices, and emotions are all wrapped
up with the idea of using the anus for sexual pleasure. This is
all cultural baggage. I say, if these ideas get you off and help
you enjoy yourself, more power to you. You are taking the negative
cultural images and using them for your own pleasure, you wonderful
pervert, you. : ) If one of these concepts stops you from enjoying
anal play, I urge you think more about where your idea came from.
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Anatomy
To understand what's going on down there you need to learn about
anatomy.
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Outer Sphincter:
This is the exterior ring of muscles in the sphincter.
As you slide a finger into the anus, you can feel this
muscle relax first.
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Inner Sphincter:
The interior ring of muscles in the sphincter. The
outer and inner sphincter make up the anus.
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Rectum:
The rectum is where objects inserted into the anus go.
It can be fairly large, volume wise.
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Prostate:
Present only in men, the prostate can be rubbed by a
finger inserted into the anus. It can feel very good.
With the man on his back, insert your index finger most
of the way with the palm side of your hand facing up.
Make a "come here" motion and you will stimulate
the prostate. It is analogous to the g-spot in women.
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Pubo-Rectal Sling:
This is a "sling" of muscle that pulls the
lower rectum towards the belly button. It helps control
bowel movements. In order for a large object to be inserted
into the rectum the pubo-rectal sling needs to relax for
the rectum to straighten out.
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Sigmoid Colon:
This is where the large intestine takes a big left turn. In
general, you won't be inserting anything that far up.
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Lubricant
Unlike the vagina, the anus and rectum does not produce lubricant.
Therefore, to enjoy sensation there we need to add some. We don't
need to add just a little, but lots. An icon of pornography, using
vaginal lubrication to lube the anus just doesn't work. There's a
saying which illustrates this:
Too much lube is almost enough.
In order to use lubricant effectively, you need to pick the
right lubricant, and use it in a way it gets to where it's
needed.
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Oil-based lubricants:
The rectum is self cleaning. Any liquid you put in is going
to come back out eventually. Therefore, it is okay to use
oil-based lubricants, assuming you aren't using a condom
on whatever is being inserted. Mineral oil, commercial
oil based sex lubricants and food oils are all fine.
Crisco (regular flavor) is a long time favorite of the
gay male community.
The problem with oil-based lubricants is that they dissolve latex.
Do not mix oil-based lubes and condoms
I have heard reports that the latex in gloves is thick,
and does not break down quickly enough to be a problem.
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Water-based lubricants:
Water-based lubricants don't have this problem. They are also much
easier to clean up. Many commercial water-based sex lubes are
available. However, only the thick, goopy lubes should be used
for anal play. "Runny" lubes such as thin Astroglide
don't work well as they will not work their way into the rectum.
Personally speaking I prefer water-based to oil-based lubes.
I find that oil-based lubes feel greasy and tacky. I find
water-based lubes to feel wet and squishy. I like that. My
personal favorite is ID. You can buy it in pump bottles.
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Push the piston up all the way, put the nozzle of the
lube container against it, and inject the lube, pushing
the piston down. Now gently slide the injector into your
warmed-up partner at a good angle. (More on this later.)
Tell your partner when you are about to inject the lube,
as it can feel rather good. : ) There is one drawback to
inserting this much lube, your next bowel movement tends
to start out similar to diarrhea.
Make sure you add more lubricant as time goes on if
you are playing for more than a few minutes. You can
do this by simply pulling the inserted object most
of the way out, adding more lube, and sliding back
in. One last word about lubricants. You can buy
lubricants with numbing agents, such as "Anal-Ease".
Basically they contain novocaine or similar drugs to
"alleviate painful anal sex."
If it's painful, you are doing it wrong!
These lubricants are dangerous! I hope someone sues the
manufacturers of these products soon and get the damn
things off the market. I feel they reinforce the concept
that anal sex is something to be "endured" for
the sake of one's partner. BULLSHIT.
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Angle
The rectum is not a straight tube, at least when you start
out. The pubo-rectal sling pulls the rectum into an "S"
curve. If you don't insert an object, or your fingers, at the
right angle, it won't feel good.
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Aim for the Belly Button:
As you start to insert something past the anus, into
the rectum, aim for the belly button. If you are inserting
fingers, or something finger-length or shorter, you are
all set. If you are inserting something longer, you will
probably have to adjust your aim.
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Stop and Pull Back:
After a few inches, your partner will tell you, if you
have good communication, that it starts to hurt. You've
hit the curve. Pull the object back just a smidge. Let
your partner know that you aren't going to move, and
DON'T move.
A fraction of an inch feels like a foot when it's
YOUR
ass.
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Aim for the Head:
When your partner signals she/he is ready to go deeper,
move your aim up towards the head, and slide back in
slowly. As you relax more, the pubo-rectal sling
elongates, lessening the curve and increasing the
comfort. I highly recommend flexible dildos for anal
play because of the curve of the rectum.
Eventually the rectum takes a left turn into the sigmoid colon,
but you should not be going up that far unless you really know
what you are doing.
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Relaxation
This is both the most important and hardest part of anal play.
The tightness of the anus is a direct indicator of emotional
tension. It's like a mood ring. You need to relax and have fun
before your anus can relax and have fun.
Convincing the anus to relax takes time. I mean this in two ways.
The simplest is time during a play session. This means start off
with something small and work your way up when you are playing.
The other is on a longer time scale. If the receiving partner
has never had anything in her or his anus, don't try anal sex
the first time. Work your way up to it over several sessions.
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Short term:
Over the course of a play session, if things are going
well, your anus will relax. You will be able to accept
larger things into the anus. Your pubo-rectal sling will
elongate and you will be less sensitive to the shape and
angle of the inserted object. You will also be able to
enjoy the sensation more. You need to take things slowly
though. Start off with one finger and work your way up.
Don't do something stupid like thinking you can just
shove the large butt-plug in with a smile and a grunt.
Take your time and enjoy yourself. It's not a race.
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Long term:
As you do more anal play over time, you will be better at
it. It's an athletic activity. Don't expect to be able to
dunk like Michael Jordan the first time. If you are a beginner,
only try one finger the first time. Maybe on the second or
third time, try two fingers. On the fifth or sixth time, try
a small dildo.
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Physical Aspects:
You have to realize that the sphincter is not your average
muscle. It's large, strong, but not normally under conscious
control. As children, we take delight in defecation. But as
we get older, we learn to disassociate with it. We don't
even think about it. When you do anal play, you need to
get re-acquainted with your anus. You will feel new
sensations. When someone is new to anal play and you
ask them if it feels good, they will have to think about
it. We have to learn to communicate with the anus, and
communication is a two-way street. Give it time and it
will happen. Your muscles will remember what to do after
a bit of training. Just give yourself time to learn.
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Emotional Aspects:
Many people have fear and apprehension about their backsides.
You don't trust what you can't see. Issues with cleanliness,
comfort level with partner, fear of pain, fear of injury,
and bad past experiences will all affect how well you can
relax. These are all things you're going to need to talk
to your partner about.
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Cleanliness
Many people, including me, have cleanliness apprehensions about
anal play. Usually, feces stay in the bowels, and only move into
the lower rectum right before a bowel movement, so you are not
going to encounter them very often. Simply go the bathroom
beforehand, and there probably won't be a problem with this.
However, you will often encounter small amounts of feces,
like tiny flakes of shit. Usually the lubricant will turn a
pale brown. If this bothers you, you will probably want to
have an enema beforehand.
The easiest way to give an enema is with the disposable enemas
you can buy at any drug store. These cost less than one dollar,
and are simple to use. Although they are not very big volume-wise,
they do the trick. Make sure to get water or saline enemas, not
oil or detergent ones.
As far as external cleanliness, it helps to have the hair around
the anus trimmed back, for those of us with hairy rear-ends.
Another option is to do anal play in the shower. Any
"uncleanliness" you encounter is simply washed
away. You do have to use more lube though, assuming you
are using a water-based lube. It too will get washed away.
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Health Issues
It's very hard to enjoy your anus during sex when you are used
to it being a source of pain in your normal everyday life. In
general, if you are having anal health problems, I recommend
you go very light with the anal play. However, completely
foregoing anal play because of a health problem can make
you feel so negative about that part of your body as to make
your problem worse. You need to work with your anus.
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Hemorrhoids:
Hemorrhoids are characterized by puffing or swelling
of the tissue of the anus. It can be accompanied by a
burning, itching, or painful sensation, especially
during defecation. MANY people, especially as they
get older, get mild hemorrhoids. Think of all those
Preparation H commercials to think of how many people
have them.
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Anal Fissures:
Anal fissures are cracks in the skin of the anus, similar
to paper cuts. These are usually radial. They can cause
sharp pain during defecation, with a small bloody smear
on the feces or toilet paper. They are often slow to heal.
They can be caused by straining during bowel movements, and
stretching the anus instead of letting it relax. They can
also be caused by sharp fingernails.
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Management & Healing:
In order to get better you're going to have to do two
things. First, you should find yourself a good doctor,
and second, you are going to have to change your diet
and bathroom habits.
When I was having problems and went to my general
practitioner, he didn't even know what a butt plug was.
I soon gave up on him. I suggest finding a gay doctor,
regardless of your gender or orientation. I feel they
tend to be much more open to the concept of using the
anus for sexual pleasure. If your doctor is not doing
what is needed to help you get better, find another one.
A high fiber diet is essential to improving anal health.
It bulks up the feces and helps trigger the natural
elimination process, meaning you don't have to push
very hard. Fruits and vegetables are a natural way
to get fiber. However, Metamucil works wonders. The
smooth texture orange flavored Metamucil mixed with
a large amount of orange juice does not taste bad.
Also, pay attention when you are going the bathroom.
Sitting and straining is a major cause of anal problems.
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The Myth of the Permanently Stretched Anus:
Here's the health problem than people fear the most
from anal play: loss of control of bathroom functions.
It just doesn't work that way. It would take extreme
force to tear the muscle. When you are accepting
something into the anus, you are doing it by relaxing
this ring of muscle. After you are done with anal play,
it will resume its normal state - closed.
There is anecdotal evidence that the use of a butt plug
for long periods of time (many hours per day) can cause
loss of anal muscle tone. This is often referred to as
butt plug training. It would appear that an exceedingly
high level of plug use can lead to dependence on a butt
plug. While I'm not sure if this is true or not, I would
suspect that interfering with the natural action of a
muscle this much could cause problems.
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Safety
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STDs:
Studies have shown that unprotected anal intercourse is THE
MOST EFFECTIVE method of transmitting HIV. One way of thinking
about it is if you are going to have unprotected anal sex,
consider that you might as well have a blood transfusion with
the person.
Besides the specter of HIV, there are less dangerous but
avoidable ills such as herpes and hepatitis that can be
transmitted to and from the anus. There are now hepatitis
vaccines available. They are fairly inexpensive, and with
some insurance companies, free. I suggest you discuss
getting a series with your doctor.
Another issue as well is the bowels' natural bacteria.
Rimming (mouth to anus contact) can transfer enough
bacteria to make you sick.
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Latex:
The best way to prevent transmission of disease,
after abstinence, is latex barriers. This means
latex gloves, dental dams, and condoms. One nice
thing about the BDSM scene is that latex is pretty
much taken for granted. It really becomes second nature.
Dental dams are much easier to get these days. They are also
being made in forms designed for sex. Real dental dams are
on the small side. I've tried the trick where you cut a
condom up the middle to make a dam. I found that you don't
get a wide enough piece. A better idea is to cut the
fingers (NOT the thumb) off of a latex glove. Then you
cut the latex up the pinkie side and you are left with
a dental dam with a tongue protuberance where the thumb
would normally go. You will probably want to wash the
icky tasting powder off and to lube the latex on the
anus side for more comfort and better sensation. Personally
speaking, nothing gets near my anus without lube.
You can get latex gloves at just about any drugstore. If
they have a size gauge on the side of the box, use it to
decide which size to get, or take one out of the box and
try on for fit. This is one case where size really does
make a difference : ) Gloves that are too big wrinkle
and are hard to use; gloves that are too small are
tight and don't allow you to move well. Whenever you
use gloves for anal play, put a glove on each hand.
This means if you want to switch hands halfway through,
you don't have to try to put on a glove one-handed. I
learned this trick from Mentor.
Everyone knows you don't mix oil-based lubricants
with condoms. However, there seems to be some evidence
that latex gloves are thick enough to stand up to oil
for the time of a play session. Unfortunately, Consumer
Reports won't be doing scientific tests anytime soon.
Some people will use two gloves on each hand. You can
also purchase Nitrile gloves, which are special surgical
gloves that hold up under oil-based lubricants.
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Cross Contamination:
One thing to watch out for in female receptive anal sex
is transference of bacteria from the anus to the vagina.
This means
nothing
that has been in the anus should go into the vagina
without changing latex or a thorough washing. Going
from vagina to anus is fine.
Women who use the same dildo in both their ass and
vagina often use a condom on the dildo when using
it in their ass.
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Anal injuries:
People occasionally hurt themselves during anal
play. They can either go too fast, or get a small
cut because of a fingernail. The result is a small
amount of blood, usually followed by sharp pain during
defecation for the next several days. There will often
be blood smeared on the toilet paper. If this doesn't
go away in a week or so, see your doctor. Medically
speaking, this is not usually a big deal. However,
it is a clear sign you went too fast and really need
to slow down next time. A distributed burning sensation
is also a sign you went too fast or didn't use enough lube.
If a large amount of blood shows up directly after
anal play, and you think you may have perforated the
rectum,
go to the emergency room now.
A perforated rectum can cause death in a few days. The
only way this could happen is if you are using a sharp
object or extreme force.
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Toys
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Butt plugs:
There are also many different butt-plugs out there.
Most are made of a rubberish jelly substance. These
are great except that they are often WAY too big for
most people. Remember you mother saying "Your eyes
are bigger than your stomach" when you ordered the
3 serving banana split all for yourself? Well, be careful
that the same thing doesn't happen when you are buying adult
toys.
Most "smalls" are a good start for most people,
not being much bigger than a wide finger. Most
"mediums" are too big unless you are fairly
experienced. Don't EVEN get me started on the "larges".
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Inflatables:
Inflatable butt-plugs and dildos are also available.
These can be nice as you can insert them, and then inflate
them gently to stretch the sphincter. Just be careful about
inflating them too much; the cover may separate from the
base and produce a large farting sound :)
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Dildos:
Just the thought of a strap-on dildo has made more than one
submissive weak in their knees. Be careful though, successful
use of a strap-on takes some patience. You need to experiment
with positions in order to find the right angle.
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Ripply Things:
This is my absolute favorite toy. The ripples feel amazing
going in and out, and you can take your time to work up
to the larger bumps. This one is also very flexible, meaning
you don't have to work as hard to find a comfortable angle.
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Vibrating Eggs:
A vibrating egg is little egg shaped plastic container
that holds a vibrator and is attached to a control unit
by a wire. Because of the risk of the wire breaking off,
always use the egg in a condom and pull the egg back out
by the condom. Also be sure to pull it out gently and
straight back, as not to cut into the sphincter.
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Anal Beads:
Anal beads are round beads on a string which are
inserted and then gently pulled out for pleasure.
Be careful about anal beads. The plastic ones that
have a weight inside are known to occasionally break,
and the plastic mold lines have not been removed, leaving
sharp edges. It appears that the brass, rubber-jelly, or
solid plastic ones are a better choice. Always make sure
the beads are smooth and cannot break. Just keep your
eyes open.
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Speculum:
A partner can inspect the inside of your anus with a
speculum. A speculum is used by gynecologists to inspect
the vagina. The two hinged pieces are shaped like two
duck-bills and are inserted and then spread apart. Be
sure you're familiar with how it works before using one.
I would recommend the small clear plastic ones for most
people. (You can also use an anal scope, a small cone
of clear plastic, but these can be harder to find.)
After an enema it's neat to see just how pink and clean
the rectum is, and you can sometimes see where the
rectum takes its left turn.
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The Issue of Flanges:
Most people recommend only using dildos that have a
flange for anal play. The fear is that you might suck
the toy into your ass. The rectum is simply not capable
of creating a suction. What can happen though is that
the dildo is inserted past its widest point and the
sphincter closes down and pushes the dildo in, or you
simply can become too excited and push it in.
In general, using toys with a flange is a good idea.
This is especially true if you're playing by yourself.
However, you can safely use toys without a flange if
you and your partner are careful. If for any reason
something does go into the rectum,
don't panic.
The rectum was made to push things out. Simply bear
down gently as during a bowel movement, and it should
come right out.
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Cleaning:
First of all, you need to decide if the certain toy
is going to be used by one person or more people. I
strongly suggest having only one person use any given
toy. If you play with multiple partners, either they
can keep their toys with them, or you can write their
name with permanent marker on their toys. If you have
a toy you want to use on multiple partners, you should
either always cover it with a condom, or it should be
a toy that can be sterilized to a medical tolerance.
If you choose not to use condoms to cover your toys,
you should clean them after each use. Assuming it is a
single person toy, you can clean it with soap and water.
The important thing is to make sure it is dry. If an anal
toy is left un-cleaned and wet, all kinds of nasty things
can grow on it.
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Anal Sadomasochism?
A large part of this guide deals with avoiding pain. But what
happens when you want to give or receive anal pain? You should
approach anal sadomasochism with trepidation. When you are
flogging someone, you can visually see much of the damage
you cause. You don't have this advantage with anal play.
Therefore, you either have to rely on your experience or
feedback from the submissive. Neither one of these are
foolproof.
All players have limits. Intentional anal pain is one that
you really need to discuss. If you are the top, you should
make explicit whether you intend to inflict pain there. If
you are the bottom, you should make explicit whether you
will accept pain there.
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Let's Play!
Now it's time to get down to business.
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Pre-Play Set Up:
The very first thing you need to do is to communicate
with your partner. Anal play is not something you can
just start doing without talking about it and hope it
comes out well. You need to negotiate.
If you are the inserter, find out about your partner's
past experiences with anal play, the things that really
turn them on about it, and things they're afraid of. Talk
about things like fantasies.
If you are the insertee, tell your partner what you
want them to do to you. Tell them about any problems
that you think will come up. Tell them if you want an
enema first. Just talk.
After negotiation, you need to find a place to play.
Most people will play in a bed or a shower. You'll
want a place where you are not going to be disturbed.
You'll also want a bathroom nearby. Get all the things
you're going to need together. This will include plenty
of lubricant, latex, maybe some toys, towels, some good
music, and an enema if you want one. Make sure to trim
and file your fingernails beforehand. Sharp nails can
cause small cuts.
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Let's Go!
First of all get into a comfortable position. Personally
I find it works best if the receiver is on their knees
with their ass in the air. On your side, or on your back
with a pillow beneath your butt also works. Either way,
you'll probably want a towel beneath you, as all that
lube can get messy.
The insertor should put a glove on each hand. Squirt
a bit of lube onto your finger. Use that finger to
spread the lube around the surface of the receiver's
anus. Don't go in yet. Just let the person get used to
the feeling of having their anus touched. Add more lube.
When the receiver says they are ready, slide the tip
of one finger over the anus so the anus is underneath
the middle knuckle. Now slide the tip of your finger
back towards the anus, pushing in gently the whole time.
When the tip of your finger is directly over the anus,
you'll feel the tip pop in just a bit. Your finger is now
through the outer sphincter. Underneath your finger,
you'll feel the small ring of the inner sphincter. It
can feel like you're pressing on the center of a small
cheerio. Add more lube.
Straighten out your finger and aim it towards the belly
button. Push in with a gentle and steady pressure. Your
finger is now inside the receiver. Check in with your
partner and make sure everything is okay. You are now
at a point that can be especially terrifying for someone
who hasn't done anal play before. We normally associate
the feeling of something in our rectum with going to the
bathroom. The receiver will all of sudden feel like they
have to go the bathroom and usually are afraid of going
on their partner. This is a false sensation. In time it
will go away. Gently pull your finger out. Add a lot
more lube.
Slowly slide back in at the same angle as before. You
can now gently begin to finger fuck your partner. This
should feel rather good. Make sure to keep talking.
If you are the receiver, tell your partner how it feels.
If you are the inserter, tell your partner how it feels
to have a finger inside their ass. If you like to,
talk dirty. Keep communicating.
If one finger is feeling fine you may want to move
onto two. Add more lube and keep going as long as it
feels good. If you want to, move onto the other toys
or a penis, but remember to add more lube and be
careful of the insertion angle. Having an orgasm
with something deep in your ass is a wonderful feeling.
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Finishing Up:
When you're finished with anal play, the inserting
partner should pull out slowly. After anal play, many
people feel they need to use the bathroom and expel
lubricant. They often will and this is normal.
Afterwards, it is time to cuddle. Later on, make
sure to talk about your experience.
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Self Play:
I highly recommend exploring your own anus. Without
any pressure to perform, or worrying about what someone
else thinks, you can learn about how your anus feels.
You can also see what your anus looks like. Get a mirror,
and look. On your back with the mirror between your legs,
you can watch as you insert an object. You can really see
how the muscles move as you relax. Part of the problems
with relating to your anus is that you can't see it.
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Fisting:
I won't go into great depth with this subject, because,
personally I have never done it. It can be done safely
if done with patience, care and plenty of lubricant.
Fisters overwhelmingly prefer Crisco. This is because
Crisco's high viscosity helps it work its way in deep,
and the lubricant holds up over the time of a long
fisting session. If fisting is something you want to
learn, I suggest you check out some of references
below, or better yet, find someone who is experienced
and apprentice to them.
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References
Note from The Fetish Alliance Webmaster:
Links from the titles of the books were added into Matchstick's
info since I thought that might make for easier purchase of the
books mentioned for those interested. You can go to the books
page and order them from Amazon.
Much of what I learned came from Anal Pleasure & Health
by Jack Morin, Ph.D. It is a GREAT book, and the authority
on all things anal. It's also a great help to those whose
anal health problems are interfering with their sex life.
Anal Pleasure & Health
by Jack Morin, Ph.D.
This is the first and only research-based guide for the millions
of men and women, of all sexual orientations, who want to include
the anal area in their erotic exploration. Updating his findings
for the 21st century, author Jack Morin, Ph.D., explains how to
replace negative emotions and beliefs about the anus with positive
attitudes; how to simultaneously enjoy anal stimulation and promote
anal wellness; how to know and communicate your requirements for
satisfying anal experiences; and how to contribute to your own
healing when you have medical problems.
There is also a fisting book out there, Trust: The Hand Book,
which is all about anal fisting (insertion of the hand into the
anus). I read it myself, but it is good, even though the writer
is a bit weird, as well as the author has a slanted view of
BDSMers.
Trust, the Hand Book: A Guide to the Sensual and Spiritual
Art of Handballing
by Bert Herrman
A "Must Read" primer for the novice or just curious
of the sexual practice brought "out of the closet"
by the late photographer, Robert Mapplethorpe and propelled
Senator Jessie Helms into the limelight as the "Saviour"
of "Traditional American Morals" when he successfully
cut the Federal budget monies for the National Endowment for
the Arts for their role in bringing an exhibit of Mapplethorp's
work depicting "Fisting" (and other not so mainstream)
sexual practices before the public.
Just recently a new book came out, The Ultimate Guide to Anal
Sex for Women. I flipped through it, and it looks pretty good.
The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women
by Tristan Taormino, Fish (Illustrator)
The first self-help manual for women about anal sex, this
is the book that many in the book industry thought we could
not publish. What readers would feel comfortable purchasing
a book with the words "anal sex" in the title.
Surprise, surprise: The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women
is a bestseller at Cleis Press. Recommended in the Playboy
Advisor (1/98 and 4/98) and by Howard Stern (12/9/97) and
featured on Loveliness (4/10/98), The Ultimate Anal Sex Guide
for Women has kept our phones ringing off the hook since
December. By the way, The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for
Women is illustrated by Fish, that wonderful cartoonist who
illustrated The Topping Book and The Bottoming Book.
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