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B.E.S.T. slave Training
REBT
Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy (REBT)
was developed by Albert Ellis, Ph. D. as a means of discovering and changing
faulty thinking which, in turn, changes emotions. The beliefs we hold
cause the emotions we feel. Identifying a belief that is incorrect
and changing that belief is the key to
REBT.
This is accomplished by first identifying the belief then disputing the
belief.
Adapting
REBT
to slave training can be a very powerful tool to assist the Master
in making long term changes in the thinking of his slave.
REBT
as adapted to slave training is based on the principles:
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A slave is responsible for her own emotions and actions and
held accountable by her Master.
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A slave's emotions and behaviors are the product of her thinking.
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A trainee can learn slavery and with practice, make them a part
of herself.
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A slave is to learn a deeper acceptance of her Master and through
her slavery gains a greater satisfactions in herself.
REBT
challenges undesirable thinking that in turn changes emotions and behavior.
REBT uses the A,B,C,D,E,F method to change thinking about a thoughts that
disturb emotions.
The letters **A-B-C-D-E-F are short for:
A = activating event: (The event that happen to cause the emotion
and/or behavior.)
B = belief about “A”: What a slave things about an event “A” causes
reaction “C”
C = behavioral consequence caused by “A & B”:
D = disputing the wrong or unwanted belief at point “B”
Changing belief “B” to belief D :
E = elimination of negative behaviors as show at “C” to the
desired behaviors “E” by challenging “B” and the undesirable
actions demonstrated by “C”
F = new feeling resulting from D and E as it effects A.
Restated, it is also defined as:
Building Blocks slave training
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Activating Experience
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Belief about A
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Consequence of A+B=C (emotional and behavioral)
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Dispute (Changing B) (examining the old belief about
A and changing it to E)
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Effects (new belief that is activated by A)
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new Feeling (new emotional reaction and behavior to A) A+E=F
HOW IT WORKS:
The activating event (A) plus the belief about the event (B)
cause Behavioral consequences (C). (A+B = C)
To change the behavior, the (B) belief about the activating event (A)
must be replaced with a new one by disputing the old belief (D). This
changes the old behavior (C) to a new behavior (E), which causes a new
feeling (F). (A+D = E) which causes F.
In short, it’s finding bad thoughts and replacing them with good thoughts,
which causes a change in behavior. The concept is only common sense.
Interfering (wrong or unwanted) belief:
Beliefs that interfere with the goal of complete ownership of your slave
must be identified and disputed. Again these are all common sense
applications. However, if you are aware of the types, it's easy to
recognize what misguided beliefs your slave holds and how to dispute
them. The disputing can be very confronting in nature.
type of disputes
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Functional -
Disputing the function of the belief in her slavery
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Empirical -
Disputing factual components of the belief as it relates to slavery
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Logical -
Disputing the logic used by the slave to hold on to beliefs.
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Philosophical -
Life satisfaction issue. Happiness lies in your slavery instead
of the belief.
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Forcing a coping statement -
arriving at a statement to dispute the belief
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Modeling others as a way of disputing your beliefs
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Weighing advantages and disadvantages of holding on to belief
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Homework -
have slave identify Interfering beliefs and prepare disputes
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Reading assignments on the lifestyle
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Helping hand -
Often by having the slave assist other slaves it can dispute
her belief
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Reframing -
look for positive aspects of belief as they relate to her slavery
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Stop and Ask -
At various points in training stop and ask –“what are you thinking’?
Identifying appropriate beliefs to replace interfering belief
(Rational Emotive Imagery):
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Forceful Coping Statement -
a statement focusing on the new belief that is repeated.
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Forceful repeating interfering belief, often reinforces new
belief
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Role Playing -
Have slave replay event using appropriate belief
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Unconditional self-acceptance of who you are ---
a slave
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Encouragement for positive acceptance of appropriate beliefs
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Encounter Exercises -
Have slave discuss areas where new belief would be challenging
Behavioral reinforcement of appropriate beliefs
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Reinforcement exercise -
task that forces use of new belief and reinforce it's use
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Penalties -
Self imposed or by the Master for not using new belief
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In Vivo Desensitization –
confronting and doing tasks that challenge (fear) new belief
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Staying in difficult situations and not acting with interfering
beliefs
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Acting on new appropriate beliefs -
and teaching not to react to interferences
Maintain New Appropriate belief
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reinforcement –
encouragement
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Teach slave to keep thinking and thinking new belief
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Work and practice, practice, practice, and practice
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