B.E.S.T. slave Training

Behavior, BDSM and slave Training

Behavioral control is controlling the body actions of a slave. It is closely associated with emotions, self-image and thoughts and is governed by them because a slave first thinks, then feels then acts. But in B.E.S.T. slave training, behavior refers to the actions of the body. Its movements, actions, expressions not feelings and the thoughts behind them. Those are covers in other parts of B.E.S.T. That is why all four sections of B.E.S.T. must be considered as a whole.

The feeling of helplessness to control and change her own behavior is important in BDSM slave training. Controlling the behavior of a slave is the key to slave development and a well thought out plan of action is far more effective than playing it by ear. The goal of behavioral training is to establish ownership of the slave’s body. Behavior modification means changing the slave’s body actions.

A Master can only truly judge a slave by what his five senses reveal to him. Try as he may, he is unable to completely see into his slave’s mind and heart. This is one thing he must accept and be honest with himself about. He can’t hear her thoughts or feel the emotions a slave feels. He can only observe her behavior and come to a conclusion about what he sees. Demonstrating proper behavior is the best way a slave shows her state of mind to her Master.

Repeated discipline training is very useful in early training. It not only teaches the desire behavior that her Master demands but also helps mold her attitude.

Environment

Controlling Space, Time, Physical Actions, Privacy and Relationships

Part of training is the actual physical control of the slave’s behavior. If you view a slave's behavior as comprised of space, time, physical actions, privacy and relationships with others, then it becomes easier to develop a training program that enables you to control her total behavior. Developing methods for discipline training that include each of the areas should be considered in early training as a way of molding her into your slave. Early training in each of these areas is helpful in avoiding future problems and providing a foundation for more advanced BDSM and slave training. Often many of these changes need to be practiced until they become a habit for her.

It is also effective to inform her that you intend to control each of the areas and explain how you intend to control them. However, it takes more than just words, action is necessary. You have to spend the time necessary by using discipline training, practice, reinforcement and punishment to change her behavior. The goal is to establish behavior that is consistent and reflects her slavery. A side benefit of establishing rules, modes and altering behavior is that it makes slave management much easier for you. This is even more important if you have more than one slave.

Below are listed the types of freedoms the Master should control in behavioral training. Additional information is located at bestinternalenslavement.htm internal enslavement.

Restricting and controlling the scope or freedom of action of the slave's body:

1. Space

   The area or space a slave is to occupy should be controlled. In the early stages of training, the slave is told where to be at all times. Restricting the slave to an area and requiring permission to go beyond that area is an example of owning the space a slave occupies. Owning the slave’s space can be enhanced by caging her for a period of time, restricting where she eats and sleeps, and restricting the use of furniture. Bondage can also be a powerful restrictive tool for controlling space.

   A method often used in early training is to assign a place for a slave to set when she is not in use in your service. It may be that you want her to set at your feet or in a corner until you called for her. Her body is controlled at all times by using this process. It is not effect slave management in long-term service because it restricts her ability to do routine task, but is useful in early training.

   Controlling space can be thought of as you controlling where her body is at all times and/or placing restrictions as to distance it can be from you. Her body must have a reasons for being beyond the distance limits you place on it or out of a particular place you have established for it to be. In early training, If you are not using her body to serve you, her body should be in a place awaiting to serve.

   Space also means, what is often called personal space around you. A slave has no personal space that is separate from her Master.

2. Time

   Controlling a slave's time means that you:

   • can set the times for activities and her availability for the activities
   • can control a period at the slave's disposal for her own use, and
   • can set or maintain the tempo, speed, or duration of: time to complete activates.

   Time is no longer owned by the slave and she learns to abide by the time schedule of her Master. Free time is a privilege granted to her. Early in training the slave should be allowed very little free time and should be kept busy serving her Master.

   The slave has probably operated most of her life on her time schedule and has to adjust her thinking to abide by your time schedule. Establishing time schedules for activities and restricting activities she can perform without permission are also ways you can control her time.

   Often, just making a slave sit quietly and wait until you desire her to serve you is an effective training tool for controlling time, space and physical actions. If you establish a place for her to sit and wait for an order, this controls both her space and time. This can be accomplished by having a place for her to sit in early training that is assigned by a particular vocal command. For example, you can use the command "Go to your place." She obeys this command by going to a particular place in the corner of the room, at your feet or wherever you decide this "place" should be. Have her remain there until you have a need for her services. This, of course, is not always practical but is a useful tool and command to let her see that her time and space are controlled and to actually experience it.

   Another method of controlling her time is to have her do certain task at a particular time every day. This is effective during the period she is learning that you own her time. In addition, if she has a routine of doing a particular thing at a particular time of day, change it to show her that you own her time and controls her behavior.

   Place her on the floor with an old clock that ticks setting beside her so she can her it. Making her stay in that place for a period of time that you establish. This reinforces that you control her time and space.

3. Physical Actions (controlling actions of the body)

   Controlling physical actions means the controlling the actual body of the slave, which include the body's 1) location at any time 2) position the body is in (Examples: kneeling, standing) 2) then the body can change locations from one place to another 3) manner or style in which the body moves 4) sexual feeling and experiences, and 5) speech.

   This involves the Master establishing his ownership of the body movements of your slave. The control of her movements and actions is a major part of her learning how to serve, obey and please. It is important to establish, practice and enforce rules of behavior for your slave. This allows a structured and consistent way of controlling your slave's behavior. These are the major reasons for having rules and modes for your slave.

   Controlling a slave's body positions and establishing Modes and Rules of Submission.

   Controlling physical actions includes, but is not limited to, establishing rules for actions she will take, teaching her positions, rules for PRESENTING, and modes. (see slave positions )

   This part defines how a slave conducts herself around her Master. It could, if you wish, include how she presents you a glass of water, stands before you, walks around the house and many other things. See slave MODES, and Rules of Submission for details on my rules, required PRESENTING and slave modes. This will give you ideas on how to establish your own.

   Controlling a slave's speech.

   Often a Master spends time "voice training" a slave. This usually means restricting her speech. The goal of slave voice training is to train the slave to speak in the pattern and inflection that her Master finds desirable and is befitting her position as his slave. (See Voice Training)

   Controlling a slave's sexual being.

   Another sub-category of controlling physical actions is controlling the sexuality or sexual being of a slave. You own her sexual being, that means you choose how, with whom, and when she has any sexual activity. she has no right of sexual refusal to you.

   She is allowed an orgasm only at your command. A slave is often required by her Master to ask for permission to have an orgasm and then beg for it. In addition, after orgasm, she should thank you for allowing her to reach an orgasm. It is not necessary that you allow a slave to have an orgasm each time you use her for your pleasure. Her sexual being serves at your pleasure.

   It is an effective tool to sometimes please yourself and not allow her an orgasm. she should always thank you for using her body for your pleasure including the times she is denied orgasm. Her sexual being is for your pleasure and training techniques should be developed to reinforce this and show her the wide range of control you have over it.

   Teaching your slave "fucking positions" is also a useful tool. With a word command from you, she know what sexual position you wish her to be in while you use her body for your pleasure. You own her body, teach her how you want to use it.

   In addition, you can teach her an automatic position that she is required to get into if you just proceed to use her sexually without saying anything. If, for example, you want her in the middle of the night, there is not always a need for foreplay; you own her so you approach her or wake her up and she knows to get into the automatic position while you use her for pleasure. You may or may not allow her to cum, it is your decision, but she should thank you for using her body for your pleasure.

   Two advance training techniques involves teaching her to cum on command and second, not allowing her a complete orgasm.

   A female cums in waves. Before not allowing her to have a complete orgasm, you need have her count the number of waves she has during an orgasm then tell you how many she had. You probably should have her do it more than once to get an accurate estimate of the number of waves she has during a normal orgasm. If she normally has between 4 to 7 waves during an orgasm; cut it in half and allow her only 2 or 3 waves during some orgasms. This will be difficult for her to do, but with practice she will be able to accomplish it. This teachers her that even how she is allowed to experience and enjoy an orgasm is owed. It is not necessary to do this all the time and is probably more effective to change-up; allow her a complete orgasm sometimes, an incomplete orgasm sometimes and no orgasm at other times.

   Teaching her to spread her legs automatically at some signal you give her is another tool. For example, if you touch her between her legs, she is to automatically spread her legs wide the instant she feels this tough no matter where she is or what time it is. Practice is necessary to ingrain this automatic response.

   Setting a rule that she must wear a dress or skirt with no panties when you are in public, shows her that her cunt must be available for use at all times. Not allowing her to sit on her dress while ridding in a car also reinforces that she must make her cunt easy to reach. she is for your use and part of that use is her sexual being, so make it easy to get to.

   Another common step taken by Masters, is not allowing her to play with her cunt or nipples unless you give her instructions to do so. You own her sexual being therefore control its use.

   Control of the slave's body also includes controlling her:

   Dress Code

   Drugs (medication)

   Good Nutrition

   Exercise

   Recreation

4. Privacy

   Privacy includes three areas; 1) privacy of the body, 2) secrets and 3) transparency of thoughts. A slave should feel that no part of her life is private from her master's view or control.

   Privacy of the body

   A slave has no place of seclusion from her master and is always subject to his observation. Any retreat or solitude a slave may have is granted as a privilege by her Master.

   Nothing is allowed to be withheld or private from her Master. The slave no longer owns her privacy and is allowed no private space without her Master’s permission. This includes her use of the bathroom, telephone conversations, work, or sleep. She must learn that her days and nights are owned by her Master.

   Forcing a slave to train in the nude and requiring her to open her body for inspection are also good techniques for privacy training. Have a predetermined command you can give her that will place her in a position or positions to have her body inspected. Do it often in early training to instill in her that she will maintain her body as you wish.

   In addition, forcing her to leave the bathroom door open at all times, shows her that nothing is private from her Master. Nothing is kelp from her Master.

   Forcing a lack of physical privacy also adds to a feeling of a lack of emotional privacy. This adds to her feeling of being owned.

   Secrets

   Privacy is more that just her body. Don't allow the slave to keep secrets. This can include computer passwords, reviewing her mail after she opens it, knowledge of her finances including income, expenses and personal debts, and private personal items.

   If you wish, it can include her forwarding copies of her email exchanges, chat room discussions and ICQ discussions to you.

   Transparency of thoughts

   One of the concepts of slavery is "transparency." This is openness related to her thoughts and emotions. Her behavior is directly related to her thoughts and emotions and it is important that this information is available to you. Exploring the slave's core beliefs and feeling should be done when resistance to change occurs.

   A very effect training tool is to simply ask your slave, "What are you thinking right now?"

5. Relationships with others (interpersonal)

   Rules are established for the relationships a slave has with others and is often divided into categories such as rules for social, employment, family, sister slaves. and restriction on or rules for sexual relationships. The control of a slave should be extended beyond just the time and relationship with her Master.

   Association with others is a privilege granted by her Master, not a right. If she is meeting co-workers after work for an activity, you can require her to ask for your permission before she is allowed to attend.

   I don't like to separate a slave from her family, but she should know that you control her access and time with them (excluding small children which to me is a separate category) and she is subject to your schedule. Yes, there are exceptions to this rule, however they should be viewed as exceptions instead of the norm.

You should remember that B.E.S.T. slave training does not consider behavior as being in a vacuum from emotions, self-image and thoughts. Each are interconnected during training. Establishing proper behavior and turning these ideas into habits for her can also improve her self-image.

Changing a slave's environment

Changing the slave's environment leads to behavioral change. A change in environment to one that is conducive to slavery helps to:

1. avoid situations that lead to unwanted behavior and
2. provide stimuli that prompt the desired behavior.

This is why it is necessary to control the slave's space, time, physical actions, privacy, and relationships.

The purpose of controlling the slave's environment is to:

• decrease the frequency of undesirable responses. (Examples: procrastinating and "bad" habits)
• increase the frequency of desired responses. (Examples: doing chores and new learned submissive behavior)

By changing the environment and behavior of a slave, a corresponding change occurs in attitude. When a slave's attitude conflicts with the behavior her Master requires, it causes a mental discomfort (conflict). This motivates her to change her attitude or behavior to reduce dissonance.

A Master controls the slave's behavior. She is helpless to change her behavior therefore her attitude must change in order to reduce the mental conflict. The feeling of helplessness to change her own behavior is important in slave training. If she is told to maintain her eyes down, she knows that her Master controls her behavior and in the long run, she is helpless to act in any other way than maintain eyes down. This feeling of helplessness in controlling her behavior fosters a change in attitude.

NOTE: The term helplessness as used here means:

that in order to maintain her slavery or continue on the right path in her slave training and not displease her Master, she is helpless to change her behavior. Her Master determines her behavior. It means that she has made a decision to allow her Master the right to make her behavioral choices for her. He has made a choice of how he wishers her to behave therefore she is helpless to change her behavior and be a slave.

"Choice Decision"

“Choice decision” (adapted from Reality therapy) states that a slave at some point in training, makes a decision to allow her Master to own her choices. In other words, she makes a "choice decision." When a Master owns a slave's choices the can choose the behavior he desires.

A slave chooses the behavior she exhibits and a slave will choose to change her behavior when:

1. Her present behavior is not getting her what she or her Master wants and
2. She believes that the choice of a different behavior will get her closer to her Master’s goal of complete ownership of her and/or change will make her a more useful slave.

Behavioral Training for a slave

Reinforcement and Punishment

Behavior training goals are geared toward increasing the Master's ownership of the slave’s environment that includes her space, time, physical actions, privacy and interpersonal relationships. When long-term behavioral goals are involved, the Master needs to understand more than just classical and operant conditioning.

AS IF:

On of the things that Adler stressed in behavioral training was acting "as if." If a slave is made to act like a slave, she becomes more accustomed to it and she gradually comes to accept slavery as natural. Training techniques such as requiring your slave to present as you enter a room, speech modifications, position training, learning and adapting to rules are all examples of behavior modification and become second nature to her.

Demanding that a trainee act "as if" adds to her feeling of helplessness in controlling her own behavior. She is aware that acting "as if" is required of her and she has no power to alter the behavior required of her.

B.E.S.T. slave training does not use "as if" training alone, but considers it part of training.

WHY:

There is a weakness to just using behavioral techniques to train a slave. The slave's attitude, emotions, self-image and thoughts are not considered in behavioral training. Behavioral training does not ask WHY. It only relates to HOW, WHAT, WHEN and WHERE the behavior of a slave is to change. The WHY is important for long-term success, therefore cognitive techniques are also important. This however, does NOT reduce the necessity or the effectiveness of good ole behavior training.

BASICS of BEHAVIORAL TRAINING:

The best methods of modifying behavior according to behavioral studies and what they should be used for are as follows:

• to teach a never before performed behavior (reinforcement: positive and negative )
• to increase or strengthen an existing behavior (reinforcement, contingency contract, token economy, modeling)
• to extend an existing behavior
  • to a new environment ( stimulus control; modeling )
  • to a new behavior (response generalization; shaping; prompting; modeling)
  • over time (maintenance; intermittent reinforcement; modeling)
• to narrow an existing behavior to limited environments (e.g., only snacking in the kitchen) (also discrimination training; modeling)
• to reduce or eliminate the display of an existing behavior (extinction; time-out; response cost; desensitization; reinforcement of incompatible responses; modeling; punishment)

It is often said by slaves that be best motivator is positive reinforcement . This can only be true if it is applied where it is intended to work. (Example, You can't reinforce bad behavior.) Punishment does work best in some cases; usually this is changed an existing behavior.

Operant conditioning is based on four concepts for dealing with proper and bad behavior. No one by itself is enough.

Positive reinforcement: getting something pleasant, e.g. a weekly pay check or a compliment

Negative reinforcement: taking away or avoiding something unpleasant, e.g. avoiding stress by not trying for a position

Positive punishment: administering or receiving something unpleasant, e.g. being spanked

Negative punishment: taking away or being deprived of something pleasant, e.g. being denied TV or fun activity or the car.

It may be helpful to understand reinforcements and punishments and how they apply to changing behavior.

There are five basic processes in operant conditioning: positive and negative reinforcement strengthen behavior; punishment, response cost, and extinction weaken behavior.

1. Positive Reinforcement - In positive reinforcement, a positive reinforcer is added after a response and increases the frequency of the response.
2. Negative Reinforcement - In negative reinforcement, after the response the negative reinforcer is removed which increases the frequency of the response. (Note: There are two types of negative reinforcement: escape and avoidance. In general, the learner must first learn to escape before he or she learns to avoid.)
3. Response Cost - if positive reinforcement strengthens a response by adding a positive stimulus, then response cost has to weaken a behavior by subtracting a positive stimulus. After the response the positive reinforcer is removed which weakens the frequency of the response.
4. Punishment - After a response a negative or aversive stimulus is added which weakens the frequency of the response.
5. Extinction - No longer reinforcing a previously reinforced response (using either positive or negative reinforcement) results in the weakening of the frequency of the response. The behavior is ignored and therefore weakens over time. This is true where a reinforcer is expected for behavior.

People will move toward new and different behaviors if they view these new and different behaviors as:

• adding new positive conditions,
• preserving existing positive
• avoiding new negative conditions, and
• eliminating existing negative conditions.

Typically, people will shy away from new and different behaviors if they view these new and different behaviors as:

• adding new negative conditions,
• preserving existing negative conditions,
• avoiding new positive conditions, and
• eliminating existing positive conditions.

Punishment works better when accompanied with reinforcement for proper behavior.

Julian Rotter stated that behavior modification requires more than classical or operant conditioning alone. He stated that individual differences are important in behavioral training. The individual’s thoughts and emotions play a part in behavioral training. Rotter stated that behavior is directed toward a need (goal) and behavioral potential and that expectancy, reinforcement value and psychological situations are factors that should be considered and are measurements for success.

Techniques and Methods for behavioral change

Some techniques used for behavioral change in slave training are:

Behavior-Rehearsal - Forced to act in appropriate way - as a slave

• Modeling - modeling the example of other slaves
• Non-reinforcement - not rewarding bad behavior
• Positive Reinforcement - rewarding good behavior
• Punishment - punishing for bad behavior after discussing and admitting bad behavior
• Discipline Training - practice correct behavior and observe and make corrections
• slave Rules - guidelines for behavior
• Recording and Self-Monitoring - Journal entries to record good and bad behavior
• Stimulus Control - removing stimulus of bad behavior
• Communication Training - learning to communicate deep thoughts and feelings. Being open
• Social Skills Development - practicing skills in public and private
• Contracts - to change behavior, including desired change, rewards and punishment.
• Token Economy - involves token gained by proper behavior and after a certain number is earned a reward is received. Coins can also be removed for bad behavior.

Behavior that is counterproductive must be identified and corrected. Examples are avoidance, withdrawal, and procrastination.

Note:

Much of the material in the behavior section is adapted from:

1. The Practice of Multimodal Therapy: Systematic, Comprehensive, and Effective Psychotherapy, A. A. Lazarus, (1989), The Johns Hopkins University Press, Baltimore MD and
2. Reality Therapy In Action, W. Glaser, M.D, (2000), HarperCollins Publishers, New York, NY.

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