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B.E.S.T. slave Training
Consequences of bad behavior
Consequences as applied in the BDSM Lifestyle
There are two types of consequences to ill-advised behavior. One
naturally occurs and the other is a logical consequence imposed by
others. The second type is the focus of this page.
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Natural Consequences:
Natural consequences are a negative result of short-sightedness
or lack of attention. In natural consequences no one else is
involved; your actions cause a consequence. It is a violation
of common sense rules of life. An example is, not getting fuel
for an automobile results in running out of gas. It is a
natural price you have to pay for certain behavior. Some natural
consequences take an indefinite period of time to have an
effect. Natural consequences can be a learning experience
for individuals. Natural consequences do not involve another
person; the consequence is a direct result of behavior. It
is often referred to as "the school of hard knocks".
Natural consequences can be a very useful tool in training
a slave to accept responsibility for her actions and correct
faulty behavior. In other words "let nature take its
course." Showing a slave that some "bad things
or bad luck" that happen to them are a direct result
of certain behaviors they have chosen is a powerful tool.
A Master that is aware of the concept of natural consequences
can use it as a training aid. If used properly it not only
improves obedience but also can help improve the self-image,
thoughts and behavior of a slave.
Emotional responses are not natural consequences to an action.
Different people react differently to identical events.
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Logical Consequences:
Logical consequences are a negative result of failing
to understand or ignoring rules, laws, protocols and
social restrictions.
Logical consequences are applied by others to the offender
(Master to slave). The influence of the Master’s opinion
and authority contributes to the power of the rules over
the slave. The slave may not like the consequences, but she
accepts them because they apply to her as a slave and are
intended for the betterment of her.
Logical consequences are not natural reactions that happen
due to a behavior, therefore they are usually more complex
and require a context in which they are applied.
Vanilla world application of Logical Consequence:
In the vanilla application of logical consequences three things are
considered important to making it successful in correcting behavior;
1) friendly attitude, 2) choice and 3) action/not words.
The concept states that a friendly attitude should be maintained while
discussing alternatives and choices of alternative behaviors and there
should not be a preoccupation with winning or losing. There should be
an avoidance of power struggles. The person being punished should
perceive that they have a certain degree of influence and choice to
allay defensiveness and resistance.
Once a choice of action has been chosen; action, not words are
important and help insure fewer misunderstandings and a greater
acceptance of the punishment.
slave training application of Logical Consequence:
(vanilla rules must be modified for slave training)
The desired goals for applying logical consequences in slave training
is normally different than how it is applied in the vanilla world. In
slave training the objective is to mold the slave’s behavior around
the rules and protocols established by her Master and establish or
reinforce the dominance of her Master. The slave’s submission to
the will of her Master is an important aspect to be considered.
Therefore, the concepts of attitude, choice and action must be
modified to align with training a slave.
In slave training, I think the following better describes the
application of attitude, choice and action:
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Attitude -
The Master should not apply consequences out of anger.
The consequences should be well thought out and appropriate
to "fit the crime." The purpose is to modify the
slave’s behavior so that it pleases her Master.
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Choices
are another aspect of logical consequences. In slave training
the consequences should be designed to show the slave that
their is a price to pay for disobeying her Master. She has
no choice but to follow her Master's rules and protocol. She
has no choice as well in determining the logical consequence
that follows her failure to obey. She is subject to what
her Master determines is a logical consequence to her
actions. By choosing slavery she has given that freedom
of choice to her Master. The choice of a consequence to
be taken can be discussed between Master and slave, but
the slave must realize that the choice of the consequence
belongs to her Master. Her only choice is obedience.
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Another important aspect is that
action,
instead of words, helps ensure success and fewer mistakes in the
future. A logical consequence is usually more than just words;
it involves a corrective and/or punitive action. The action
should point out the bad behavior and the correct expected
behavior should be made clear to the slave.
Comparison of consequences to punishments: (society's view and
the BDSM view of punishment)
Below in the first two columns the standard vanilla world
distinction between consequences and punishment is illustrated.
Punishment is viewed as a bad word in current society; therefore
society expresses a definition of it in a negative light.
I think the third column better defines how punishment can be used
as a consequence of bad behavior in slave training.
* denotes society's view
** denotes BDSM view
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Consequences*
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Punishment*
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Punishment as a consequence in slave training**
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Expresses reality of social order (rules, laws and such)
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Expresses power of authority
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Expresses reality of the social order and
authority of her Master
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Logically relates to behavior
(directly related to disobeying established rules
or laws)
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Involves moral judgment
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Logically relates to behavior as it relates to her
relationship with her Master.
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Concerned with present
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Concerned with past
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Concerns past or present bad behavior
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No anger
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Often anger is present
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Punishment should be administered after anger has subsided
in a calm manner. The purpose of punishment is not revenge;
it is intended to correct current bad behavior.
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No submission necessary (a choice of act is determined)
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submission usually necessary
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Submission always necessary and choice belongs to her Master
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Deliberate
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Often impulsive
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Usually deliberate but can be impulsive; the impulsive
punishment should be expected for that particular violation.
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Person feels important
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Person feels belittled
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slave feels owned, the property of her Master and subject
to his will. In that context, she feels important to the
relationship.
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Choice only given once
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Often involves nagging
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Master makes choice and may include detailed discussion
of bad behavior before punishment. Punishment is also a
means of establishing an ending point to the Master’s
displeasure with bad behavior.
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Uses action
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Uses talking and coercion
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Uses action and talking. Usually the reason for the action
is conveyed to the slave before it's application.
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Consequences are accepted
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Is at best tolerated
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Punishment is accepted by the slave and she believes it
is being administered in her best interest. The objective is
to train her to serve, obey and please her Master. A slave is
fully aware that a consequence will follow her displeasing her
Master.
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Freedom of choice
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No choice
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Punishment is for failure to obey the rules of the Master
and he determines the logical consequence of that behavior.
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One important consideration is that logical consequences should be uniform
for all slaves owned by the Master. That does not mean that the punishment
will be the same for each case. For example, if one slave has violated a
rule before and the other has not, a logical conclusion may result in different
punishments for each slave. In addition, what may be considered harsh
punishment by one slave may be mild punishment or pleasure for another.
The above is adapted to slave training from Chapters 3 and 4 of the book
"Adlerian Counseling, A Practitioner’s Approach, Fourth
Addition", by Thomas J. Sweeney, Ph. D.
All pages © by Cuffsmaster 2002 – 2003
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