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Making The Grade (2)
Evaluation of Your submissive
By Norische
This is a list set up to aide in the communication of abilities and
performance, and to clarify the expectations of the Dominant for
the submissive.
Instructions:
Periodically, I suggest twice a year, go through and answer the
questions below honestly and with as much deliberation as possible.
Remember to consider the individuals performance on a whole, and not
focus on one or two days out of the time allotted. In the comments
section, please be as thorough as possible, remember if you want an
individual to change his or her behavior you must first show them
that you are dissatisfied, then you must inform him or her of the
behavior expected, and finally inform the individual of how they can
meet your expectations. Remember the more information you give the
easier it is for the submissive to meet your expectations and to
grow.
As you choose each topic, pick the appropriate "grade" you
feel the submissive deserves. Please utilize the additional space to
make comments or suggestions for the submissive. There are three
open areas at the end of this list, utilize this section to put
your own specific topic in it, something that is important to you as
an individual, such as humor, spirituality, sexuality, voice
tone, alertness, or detail oriented…each time you fill out this
form these topics may change, use this space to expand and explore the
possibilities.
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Example: Does the Dominant exhibit an air of
authority?
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Example: Does the Dominant know how to take
control, and know how to use said power?
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Example: Does the Dominant reinforce rules and behaviors
with appropriate discipline?
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Example: Does the individual have the necessary skills to be
a Dominant?
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Example: Does the Dominant have the knowledge and
understanding of what a Dominant is, and what is expected of him or her?
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Communication
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B
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C
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D
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F
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N/A
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Example: Does the Dominant communicate well, and encourage
the submissive to do the same?
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Active Listening
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A
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B
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C
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D
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F
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N/A
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Example: Does the Dominant really listen to what the
submissive has to say, and show interest?
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Example: Is the Dominant open and willing to
answer questions?
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Example: Is the Dominant discrete when appropriate and take
into consideration the feelings of individuals not in the
lifestyle?
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Example: Does the Dominant respect the sub, and treat him or
her with respect?
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Emotional Stability
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B
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C
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D
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N/A
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Example: Is the Dominant emotionally stabile, or seeking the proper
assistance and/or medication?
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Example: Does the Dominant have the appropriate
attitude, and encourage a stabile environment?
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Self Esteem
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B
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C
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D
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F
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N/A
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Example: Does the Dominant have good self esteem and exhibit
pride and a strong sense of self?
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Example: Can the Dominate remained focused on one thing when
applicable?
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Example: Is the Dominant observant, specifically of the
submissive and his or her behaviors, wants and needs?
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Example: Does the Dominant use initiative in the manner in
which he or she treats the submissive?
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Example: Is the Dominant creative and use ingenuity in the
manner in which he or she treats the submissive?
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Organization
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B
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C
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D
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N/A
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Example: Is the Dominant organized and
encourages an environment that includes order
and logic?
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Example: Is the Dominant adaptable, and sees each new
problem as a challenge to be resolved?
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Example: Is the Dominant tolerant of others including the
uniqueness of the submissive, as well as others, as opposed
to being judgmental?
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Decisiveness
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N/A
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Example: Is the Dominant sure of his or her decisions, and
is not wishy-washy?
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Independence
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B
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C
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D
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N/A
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Example: Is the Dominant independent and capable of taking
care of him or herself when the sub is otherwise occupied?
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Reliability
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B
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D
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N/A
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Example: Is the Dominant reliable, someone you can count on?
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Consistency
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B
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N/A
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Example: Is the Dominant consistent, both with his or her
behavior and with his or her actions towards others?
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Dependability
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B
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N/A
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Example: Is the Dominant dependable and someone that if he
or she says they will do something that they will do
everything in their power to do it?
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Example: Is the Dominant patient and understanding with the
submissive?
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Example: Does the Dominant exhibit proper manners?
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Example: Does the Dominant understand proper etiquette and
utilize it as appropriate?
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Example: Does the Dominant maintain a proper appearance;
this does include cleanliness?
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Health/Fitness
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B
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C
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D
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F
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N/A
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Example: Does the Dominant maintain good health,
takes medication as directed, and seeks medical
assistance when applicable?
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Example:
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Example:
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Example:
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Things that you would like to see improved…
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Goal…
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Improvements and Acknowledgements
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Dominant
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Submissive
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The above is a listing of basic abilities and capabilities,
each individual is different and the requirements of each
Dominant is different. This list is not designed to judge
anyone it is designed to assist in communication and encourage
growth both personally and within a relationship.
As with everything this is my opinion, take what you will and leave
the rest. If you wish to contact me, my email address is
Norisch1@mchsi.com
. If you wish to see more of my work you may find a complete
listing of all my writings at...
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Norisches_Quill/?yguid=99788111
in the files section.
Norische
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