How To Spot a Bull Shit Artist and Possibly A Dangerous Player

• Anyone who says; The words "true", "real", "only", etc.
• Anyone who claims to be a "trainer", especially an online trainer.
• Anyone who has no references.
• Anyone who won't give you their real name, work place and #, license tag #, and agree to let you confirm their place of employment and share that info with a safe person before a meeting or session.
• Anyone who says they have no limits.
• Anyone who won't use safe words or safe signals.
• Anyone who says they don't have a submissive bone in their body, everyone submits to someone. (mother, traffic judge, someone).
• Anyone who says they don't use condoms because they have been tested.
• Anyone who insists you be tested so you don't have to use condoms.
• Anyone who EVER under any circumstances does not use a condom.
• Anyone who has read only Gor or the Beauty series.
• Anyone who thinks Gor is the only true way to do Ds.
• Anyone who thinks there is a one true way to do Ds, or S/M
• Ask a potential Dominant partner this question ; If you couldn't use sex or toys, how would you Dominate me? See what answer you get and how you feel about it.
• Too many Dominants are just control freaks who are looking for kinky (or any) sex.
• Too many submissives are looking for a caretaker to absolve them of responsibilities for themselves.
• Too many of both think BDSM is all romance and marshmallows and don't realize its hard work.
• Being a submissive is not the same as being a personal blowjob machine.