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You have the right to be treated with respect. Not
only do you have this right, you have the right to
demand it. Being submissive does not make you a
doormat or less of a person than anyone else. The
word "submissive" describes your nature
and in no way diminishes you as a human being. You
have the right to respect yourself as well.
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You have the right to be proud of what you are. Being
a submissive is nothing that should ever bring you shame
or feelings of reproach. Your submissive nature is a gift
and should always be a source of pride and happiness.
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You have the right to feel safe. Being a submissive
should not make you feel afraid, insecure or threatened.
Submission is not about living on the edge or flirting
with fear. In any situation you should feel safe or there
can never be true surrender.
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You have the right to your emotions and feelings. Your
emotions and feelings come from you and they are just
as valid as anyone else's. You have a right to them.
Those feelings, whether positive or negative, make you
who you are and suppressing them will only bring
unhappiness later.
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You have the right to express your negative feelings.
Being submissive does not make you an object that no
longer has negative thoughts or concerns. Your concerns
are real and you have every right to express them. If
something doesn't feel right, bothers you, makes you
feel bad or you just plain don't like something, say
so. Failing to express your negative feelings could
give the mistaken impression that you are pleased or
satisfied with something that is not pleasurable or
agreeable.
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You have the right to say NO. Being submissive does
not take away your right to have dislikes or negative
feelings about things. If something is happening or
about to happen that you feel strongly opposed to,
it's your duty to speak up. Remember, failing to
communicate the word NO is the same as saying YES.
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You have the right to expect happiness in life.
Being submissive is not tantamount to being miserable,
suffering or a life of despair. Your submission should
bring you joy, peace and fulfillment. If it doesn't,
then something is wrong.
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You have the right to have input in a relationship.
You are an active partner in any relationship you
enter and have every right to contribute to it. You
are submissive, not passive. A relationship that
doesn't include your needs, thoughts, hopes and
desires is not one you should be in to begin with.
This applies to friendships, partnerships and D/s
relationships.
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You have the right to belong. Being submissive
greatly involves the feeling of belonging. Many
submissives have expressed that it was in discovering
their submissive nature that they felt as through they
"belonged" for the first time in their lives.
You belong to the lifestyle and will eventually belong
to the One. It's in that relationship you should find
the final fulfillment of "belonging" at last.
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You have the right to be loved and to love. Anyone
who tells you that love doesn't fit into a D/s
relationship has never experienced the fulfillment
of all it truly can be. Submissives are by nature
loving and needing of love and have every right to
expect this to be a part of their lives. It takes
love to bring your submission into full bloom, so
don't settle for less.
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You have the right to be healthy. Health involves
your physical, mental and emotional well-being. Any
relationship, D/s or otherwise, that causes you to
suffer physically, mentally or emotionally, beyond
your limits, is abuse. There is no place for abusive
behavior in a D/s relationship and it's up to you to
make sure those lines are not crossed.
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Being a submissive does not give anyone the right to
harm or injure you in any way. The D/s community will
stand behind you if you should encounter such a situation
but you are the one who has to make them aware before
they can help.
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You have the right to practice safe sex. Not only is
this a right, it's a duty to yourself and others you
may come into contact with at a later date. Sexually
transmitted diseases have reached epidemic proportions
and must be a concern to any sexually active person.
Safe Sex is something you have the right to insist upon
and protecting yourself should never be discouraged by
anyone who really has your best interests at heart.
