Age Play Negotiation Form

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Sometimes people ask me how they can find or develop their own inner little to play. There is no right or wrong way to do so, and I encourage everyone to find his or her own way. That said, I thought it would be fun to write a bit of a "negotiation form" for it. Take what works and throw the rest to the side or rewrite it! If you want to play multiple roles, you'll have to do this list of questions for each role. This is sort a negotiation form for age play that you do with yourself, but can obviously share with a partner. It is incomplete, as any list involving complex human interaction MUST be. Consider this a starting point that will help you to think about what you want, rather than a list of all possibilities. Use it as a springboard for better communication with yourself about what you're after and to remind you of what to talk to a partner about.

WARNING: This form is written with sexual, BDSM, and ADULT ideas and language included.

Gender ID:

What gender do you want to play? (This doesn't necessarily mean it is the gender you feel you are or want to someday be.)	Boy	Girl
Are you a transsexual?	Yes	No
Are you a transvestite?	Yes	No
Are you into gender bending?	Yes	No
What does the gender role you want to play mean to you?
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Do you need a partner to "transform" you into the gender you want to play?	Yes	No
If so, does that transformation need to include being "forced" to transform?	Yes	No
What do you need in order to feel like you are playing the gender you wish?
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Rating:

If your play was a movie, what rating would you want it to have?

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Name:

What do you want to be called in role?	_________________________________
What nicknames are okay?	_________________________________

Personality:

Bratty	Well mannered	Happy
Studious	Other	____________________________________________

Sex:

Do you want sexual contact to be a part of your play?	Yes	No

If so, what types:
Kissing?	Yes	No
Hugging?	Yes	No
Frottage?	Yes	No
Sexual fondling?	Yes	No
Vaginal sex?	Yes	No
Oral sex?	Yes	No
Anal sex?	Yes	No
Fisting?	Yes	No
Masturbation?	Yes	No
Sex toys?	Yes	No
Other?
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What birth control/safe sex methods are okay for play (if applicable)?
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What birth control/safe sex methods are okay for play (if applicable)?
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Body image:

Are there any things about your body that you want to ignore during play or imagine are different than they are?	Yes	No
If so, which ones:
Size?	Yes	No
Breasts/Chest area?	Yes	No
Penis?	Yes	No
Vulva?	Yes	No
Other?	Yes	No
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Language:

Will you be verbal or nonverbal during play?	Verbal	Non Verbal
If you are nonverbal:
Will you be completely silent?	Yes	No
Make sounds (giggles, crying, screaming, squealing, grunting)?	Yes	No
Will you make gestures? (pointing, clapping, sign language)?	Yes	No

If you are verbal:

Will you use improper language?

Yes

If so, what sort:

Baby language/improper pronunciation? (pweeease, no dat mine, want da fing)	Yes	No
Improper grammar? (Me goes to the kitchen.)	Yes	No
Substitution of baby words for proper words? (binky for pacifier, pee pee for urine)	Yes	No
Will you use a different voice? If so, how will it be different?	Yes	No
Pitch?	Yes	No
Speed?	Yes	No
Speech Impediment?	Yes	No
Whiney?	Yes	No
Giggly?	Yes	No
Bratty?	Yes	No
Other?
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Can YOU use swear words?	Yes	No
If so, what type?
Childish (Darn doody poop face!)	Yes	No
Mild (CRAP!)	Yes	No
Moderate (Son of a bitch!)	Yes	No
Heavy (Fuck you!)	Yes	No
lil' Porn star (Fuck my cunt bitch!)	Yes	No

Can YOU use body part labels?	Yes	No
Childish (This is my whowho.)	Yes	No
Medical (This is my vulva.)	Yes	No
Naughty (This is my cunt.)	Yes	No

Do you want your language to be:
Lovingly Corrected?	Yes	No
Punished?	Yes	No
Encouraged?	Yes	No

What sort of language do you want your PARTNER to use?
Can THEY use swear words?	Yes	No
If so, what type?
Childish (Ding darnit!)	Yes	No
Mild (CRAP!)	Yes	No
Moderate (shit!)	Yes	No
Heavy (Fuck!)	Yes	No
Porn star (I'm going to fuck you hard bitch)	Yes	No

Can THEY use body part labels?	Yes	No
Childish (This is your whowho)	Yes	No
Medical (This is your vulva)	Yes	No
Naughty (This is your cunt)	Yes	No

Can you raise YOUR voice?	Yes	No

Can your PARTNER raise their voice?	Yes	No

Discipline and/or humiliation:

Do you want to be disciplined or humiliated in role?	Yes	No
What sort of situations will call for discipline or humiliation?
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Not listening or following instructions?	Yes	No
Being sexual?	Yes	No
Not being sexual?	Yes	No
Using bad language?	Yes	No
Not finishing chores?	Yes	No
Other?
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Do you want the discipline or humiliation to have an erotic element?	Yes	No
Explain
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What sort of discipline or humiliation is okay?	Yes	No
Verbal?	Yes	No
The Word No	Yes	No
Affectionate verbal? (Don't do that sweetie)	Yes	No
Cold verbal? (Don't do that)	Yes	No
Abusive/threatening verbal? (Don't fucking do that)	Yes	No

Physical?	Yes	No
Grabbing?	Yes	No
Pinching?	Yes	No
Shaking?	Yes	No
Biting?	Yes	No
Slapping?	Yes	No
Pulling Hair?	Yes	No
Pushing?	Yes	No
Spanking?	Yes	No
Caning?	Yes	No
Paddling?	Yes	No
Strapping?	Yes	No
Birching?	Yes	No
Enema?	Yes	No
Diapering?	Yes	No
Hairbrush?	Yes	No
Spoon?	Yes	No
Torture?	Yes	No
Panty gag?	Yes	No
Other?
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Watersports and scat

Urination	Yes	No
In diaper?	Yes	No
In bed?	Yes	No
In underwear?	Yes	No
In toilet?	Yes	No
On someone?	Yes	No
Other?	Yes	No
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While being observed?	Yes	No
Being urinated ON?	Yes	No
Drinking urine?	Yes	No
Playing in urine?	Yes	No

Scat	Yes	No
In diaper?	Yes	No
In bed?	Yes	No
In underwear?	Yes	No
In toilet?	Yes	No
On someone?	Yes	No
Other?	Yes	No
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While being observed?	Yes	No
Being pooped ON?	Yes	No
Eating poop?	Yes	No
Playing with poop?	Yes	No
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Enemas?	Yes	No
How much fluid?	____________
What type of fluid?	____________
What equipment?	____________
Expel alone?	Yes	No
Expel while being watched?	Yes	No

Fetish or BDSM elements:

Do you want SM or bondage to be a part of your play?	Yes	No
If so, what types?
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(This might take a whole negotiation sheet dedicated to BDSM. There is an online negotiation forms that can help you with this part at BDSM Checklist)
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Is there a fetish material that needs to be involved?	Yes	No
If so, what type?
Plastic?	Yes	No
Rubber?	Yes	No
Latex?	Yes	No
Leather?	Yes	No
Cloth Diaper Material?	Yes	No
Silky Slip?	Yes	No
Other?	Yes	No
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Roles:

Age range?
Baby (0-2yrs old)	Yes	No
Toddler (2-4yrs old)	Yes	No
Kindergarten Kid (5-6yrs old)	Yes	No
School Girl (7-12yrs old)	Yes	No
Young Teen (13-15yrs old)	Yes	No
Older Teen (16-18yrs old)	Yes	No
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Can your role be "related" to your partner? (i.e...daughter, son, niece)	Yes	No
What role appeals to you the most? (daughter, neighborhood kid, student)	____________
What role that your PARTNER could play would appeal most to you? (Mother, Uncle, Neighbor, Teacher)	____________

Situations:

Classroom?	Yes	No
Nursery?	Yes	No
Bedroom?	Yes	No
Bath time?	Yes	No
Kidnapping?	Yes	No
"Forced" (meaning PRETEND to be forced) to do things? other?	Yes	No

Props:

What sort of props will help you into role?
School Desk?	Yes	No
Toys?	Yes	No
Games?	Yes	No
Room decorations?	Yes	No
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Clothing:

Under things	Yes	No
Diapers?	Yes	No
If so, Cloth or Disposable?	Cloth	Disposable
Plastic pants?	Yes	No
Panties?	Yes	No
Frilly, cartoons, or plain?	Yes	No
Ultra femme or boyish?	Yes	No
Bra?	Yes	No
Undershirt?	Yes	No
Corset?	Yes	No
Crinoline?	Yes	No
Stockings?	Yes	No
Slips?	Yes	No
Socks?	Yes	No
Other?
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Outer clothing	____________
Frilly, cartoons, or plain?	____________
Ultra femme or boyish?	____________
Dresses?	____________
Pants?	____________
Shirts?	____________
Overalls?	____________
Shoes?	____________
Other?
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Accessories	Yes	No
Earrings?	Yes	No
Hat?	Yes	No
Tiara?	Yes	No
Bracelet?	Yes	No
Ring?	Yes	No
Necklace?	Yes	No
Ribbons?	Yes	No
Hair barrettes or ties?	Yes	No
Shoe laces?	Yes	No
Harness?	Yes	No
Pacifier?	Yes	No
Bottle?	Yes	No
Blanket	Yes	No
Other?
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Safe Word:

What verbal safe words will you be using for:	____________
"Getting close to the limit, be careful"	____________
"Stop immediately!"	____________
"The physical elements of this play are disturbing me."	____________
"The emotional elements of this play are disturbing me."	____________

What nonverbal safe words will you be using for:
"Getting close to the limit, be careful"	____________
"Stop immediately!"	____________
"The emotional elements of this play are disturbing me."	____________
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Nature of relationship:

What does this role mean to you?

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Do you intend to be in role only when in scene, or do elements extend beyond scene? If so, which ones?

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What sort of commitment is desired?

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Describe an ideal situation in which you'd be little, and how you would feel.

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Describe your ideal partner and how they would feel about your inner little.

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What are some things left off of this list that are important to you?

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