BDSM/Fetish PLAY LIST

Prepared by Jrsygir1(6/2000)

This list was inspired by many existing lists on the internet... it was prepared and is intended for educational purposes only and should not be used for commercial gain... please feel free to reproduce and distribute this document free of charge anywhere on the internet or in print.

This is a Play list that may help couples figure out what their wants and needs are. Personally I don't like play lists but sometimes they are good communication tools. When someone fills it out they should indicate if they are filling it out for their ultimate Dominant/Top partner or for someone in particular, taking into consideration the nature of the relationship. In other words if I were filling it out for my longtime Dominant partner it would look different than if I were filling it out for a new casual play partner. Some of the answers would be different based on the nature of the relationship and the level of trust involved. Please note: nothing in my opinion takes the place of chemistry and face to face communication.

How to fill out the forms:

I, __________________________________________, am filling this play list out at the request of __________________________________________.

My experience in BDSM is best described as (circle one):

SEX
Is sex something you want in your BDSM relationship?

Define sex:

Define Safe Sex:

BONDAGE
Degree of immobility or helplessness enjoyed (circle one)

PUNISHMENT
Do you respond to punishment?

Under what circumstances is punishment not ok?

ROLE PLAY

FETISH
What items or types of play make the little man in your boat stand up and sing?

HUMILIATION & EXHIBITIONISM
Is humiliation something you might get into?

What about being displayed in public?

What types of humiliation would be off limits?

BODILY FUNCTIONS

INTENSE SENSATION AND IMPACT PLAY

OTHER STUFF

For you, the turn on of BDSM is: (rate from 1 to 6 with 1 being most erotic):

What positions have the highest erotic value for you (rate from 1 to 6 with 1 being most erotic):

What toys have the highest erotic value for you (1=some interest 5=very interested)

How do you usually like it? (use all that apply)
(N) never, (T) thuddy, (S) stingy, (L) light, (M) medium, (H) heavy, (?) unsure

These activities interest me and why:

Your biggest fantasy is:

Your favorite scene was:

Your worst scene was:

Your biggest fears are:

How do you feel about Polyamoury?

Do you consider yourself Poly or Monogamous?

What parts of your body are most erotically sensitive?

What parts of your Dom's body would you most like to pleasure?

List any known limits for the specific play partner this questionnaire is being prepared for:

What disease screenings have you had (dates) and what were the outcomes?

What disease screenings are you willing to get?

What disease screenings are you unwilling to get and why?

For the Tops/Dominants

My experience in BDSM is best described as (circle one):

I as the Top/Dominant have the following limits:

What safe words will be used and what are their specific meanings?

My style of BDSM is best described as:

If you couldn't use toys, pain or sex, how would you Dominate your submissive/bottom?

Dominant/Top's Real Name is ________________________

Place of Employment_________________________

Employer Phone # __________________

I, ___________________________________________________, give ____________________________________________________ permission to contact my place of employment and verify my name and employment. I understand this info will be given to the safe call person of the  play partner when we meet in real life.

Member of the following BDSM organizations

References:

Submissive/bottom's Real Name is ________________________

Place of Employment_________________________

Employer Phone # __________________

I, ___________________________________________________, give ____________________________________________________ permission to contact my place of employment and verify my name and employment. I understand this info will be given to the safe call person of the play partner when we meet in real life.

Member of the following BDSM organizations

References

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